Love.......... friz777: Falling in love is always magical.it feels eternal,as if love will last forever.We naively belive that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had,free from the odds that love will die,assured that it was meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after.but as the magic recedes and daily life takes over,it emerges that men contiue to expect women to think and react like men,and women expect men to behave like women.without a clear awareness of our differences,we do not take the time to understand and respect each other.we become demanding,resentful, judgmental,and intolerant.with the best and most loving intentions love continues to die.somehow the problems creep in.The resentments build.communication breaks down.Mistrust increses.Rejection and repression result.The magic of love is lost. friz777: yes i agree with you,and only go on what i been though.but what i do no is that love is just like feelings they come and go.when negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well and love dies.  Lifeofsins: I hate to say it again but I will "True to some extent or should i say true for some " You said... yes i agree with you,and only go on what i been though.but what i do no is that love is just like feelings they come and go.when negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well and love dies. Personally after reading that it comes across to me that u may have mistaken love for what was actually lust coz Love doesn't come and go but lust dose (I don't know it could just be me i am a bit of a freak) and as for suppressing feelings, well it all depends how u go about it. Love goes beyond 4 letters and feelings, Love is so much more That most of the words we want to use to describe it don't exist yet friz777: thats why i love sharing what iv been though cause you learn something different or new through sharing.you may feel alot of love for your partner,and then,the next morning,you wake up and are annoyed and resentful of him or her.you are loving,patient,and accepting,and then the next day,you become demanding or dissatisfied.you cant imagine not loving your partner,and then the next day you have an argument and suddenly begin thinking of divorce.your partner does something loving for you,and you feel resentful for the for the times in the past when he or she ignored you.you are attracted to your partner,and then suddenly you feel numb in his or her presence.you are happy with your partner and then suddenly feel insecure about the relationship or powerless to get what you need.you feel confident and assured that your partner loves you and suddenly you feel desperate and needy you are generous with your love,and then suddenly you become withholding,judgmental,critical,angry,or controlling you feel good about yourself and your life and then,suddenly,you begin to feel unworthy,abandoned,and inadequate.thank you for allowing me to share with you,I use to think that love never dies,till my wife of 20years just one day fellout of love with me.It was the most hurtingness thing that ever happend in my life.But will still find someone to love again one day. friz777: oh forgot to mention,that love is created not by words but by feelings, not by mind but deep within the heart. Lifeofsins: First You say...... yes i agree with you,and only go on what i been though.but what i do no is that love is just like feelings they come and go.when negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well and love dies. Now u go on to say.... oh forgot to mention,that love is created not by words but by feelings, not by mind but deep within the heart. Dude your just contradicting yourself........................ I'm sure i said........... Love goes beyond 4 letters and feelings, Love is so much more That most of the words we want to use to describe it don't exist yet I feel the need to say read what is said and not what u want it to say, I dont know about you but Love has nothing to do with being Married or not, The one I was With had my all, no argument/disagreement, person, action, mood or what ever, Ever compromised my love for her (but then again i could just be a freak of nature)and the more u keep saying the more it looks like to me that u were lusting not in love friz777: you are not a freak of nature, may be what iam saying is all shit,but do no the differnts between lust and love.love to me is a strong feeling that represents affection towards someone dear to your heart.love in a person is an all-encompassing quaility of goodness,expressed by love for people,land,birds and animals,fish and all living things.A person who has love for another express genuin concern towards them and acts with there welfare in mind,no matter what their state of health or wealth.it is the act of love that adds quality and meaning to life. Lifeofsins: maybe i misunderstood where u were coming from it just seemed like u were describing Lust till now sorry dude friz777: your welcome my friend,Thank you for your time, and even listening to my comments,you hava great day and an awesome week, |
