DID U BELIEVE THAT FIRST LOVE NEVER DIES? minnie_mm: its just ur attitude hon....love is always meant to b given...if u dont get it back...remember it with all gud reasons... Mg101: well im not sure because im allways hurt,,,sometimes i wish that i dont have feelings anymore.... minnie_mm: hey....dont b so negative...come on...its life.. sometimes it hurts u n sometimes makes u feel like d magic.. sunjordan: never dies believe me u thought that it dead but it's not u may will face something that will assure u that it's still there Mg101: i have a first love..but when im thinking about him,,i dont really feel wat i feel,,its confusing and i dont understand d feelings if i have it or not... sj12: They're all saying it these days -- in schools and colleges, in parks and restaurants, at workplaces and in bedrooms, over the phone and through the e-mail. They first say it as a declaration, then as an assurance. Even people who normally don't converse in English, when it comes to expressing this primary emotion, prefer 'I love you' to its vernacular equivalent. Just as the way it happens in the movies: the actor or the actress will flirt in the movies, but the flirtation usually culminates with the mouthing of the inevitable 'I love you.' But when people say 'I love you' to each other, what exactly do they mean? That they want to get married? That they find each other irresistible? Or is it an expression of affection or admiration? Or an unstated agreement to have s^~? No one knows. The answer is bound to be as complicated as the definition of love. But one thing is certain. Ten years ago, when you said 'I love you', no matter what you meant by that, it was taken not only as a declaration of love but also of commitment. It was sacred as a vow. And you usually said it only once in your lifetime -- to the person who eventually became your spouse. And the pleasure of saying it was similar to using a smuggled French perfume. Today, you can get the same perfume in the neighbourhood departmental store. Similarly, 'I love you' is now a free commodity. " Today, 'I love you' no longer means you are the only one I love. It is only an expression of feeling," says psychiatrist So today, people are falling in love more often than ever before. And not just with one person. Today you might be in love with someone, but you are free to walk out if the relationship is stifling and fall in love with someone else. Unlike the days of the past when only death could do you apart. Does that mean the present generation is less sincere when it says 'I love you'? I doesn't think so. "They no longer say it to express a commitment. I believe they mean it when they say it," Perhaps, with culture and tradition, relationships have become flexible too. Take the case of my friend journalist who relocated in metro a year ago. Friendless in a new city, he took to the Internet chatrooms. There he met Girl, 18, a student of College. They fell in love even before they met; and when they met, a passionate affair began. But in less than six months, she was gone, after having declared her love a million times. "I think she grew out of the relationship. But when she used to tell me 'I love you', I could see she meant every bit of it," says my friend journalist, who nursed a broken heart for a while before moving on -- to other women, of course. Today, both speak on the phone occasionally, like "good friends." So where does this leave love? my another friend said, ''The word love means nothing to me at the moment," "But I know when I meet my knight in shining armour, then it will have a lot of significance. At this point in time, if someone said it to me, I would not believe him." Why not? The answer is simple -- 'I love you' is no longer the smuggled French perfume. Say it to any woman today and she's unlikely to be impressed Instead, she's likely to turn back and ask: "How many people you have said this to before?" In any case, no one falls in love with a Tom, Dick or Harry these days So you fall in love with and marry someone compatible. After that what? "As long as you are in love minus the responsibilities, you are crazy about it. Once married, the colours start fading. Moreover, where is the time for romance after you have a child?" it seems so crazy,'' she says. Is it really worth falling in love? For that, we have to first define love. And that's not as easy as saying, I love you. sj12: Today I begin to understand what love must be, if it exists... When we are parted, we each feel the lack of the other half of ourselves. We are incomplete like a book in two volumes of which the first has been lost. That is what I imagine love to be: incompleteness in absence .......... hellenic_light: Yes yes, i believe that first love never dies..i still remember that guy..ummmmmm what was his name lol j/k Yes first love dies...and it clears the way for the next love |