Online Dating

socialdistortion
socialdistortion: Has anyone tried it and could give me a few tips?

I feel like it is my last chance to have someone as everyone I know are in relationships, getting married and/or having babies. I work irregular hours and don't get out much and I have always thought pubs/clubs are terrible places to meet someone. The problem is there isn't many places where I live that single people can meet someone.

Anyone else in a similar situation?
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vivv_00
vivv_00: two things: be honest, and don`t expect too much. i`ve met lots of nice ppl through online dating sites
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PureSilver67
PureSilver67: Can be good and bad as with anything. As long as you have integrity and are true to your own values - you should be fine.
To me, it comes down to finally meeting the person in real life - because that's where you'll "have" to live with them, be with them, have a relationship with them etc.
So it's up to you on how long you chat online with the person before you meet them. And you will kiss a few "froggets" before you meet your Princess.
Look for people who of course share your interests and know what you are willing to accept and possibly more importantly what you're not willing to accept.
Most of all - have fun!!
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tleechocolate
tleechocolate: hi, I AM new and I would like some advice
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WilliamGolding
WilliamGolding: I'd reccomend against it for the fact that you feel like it's your last chance, although I think alot of people already on those sites feel that way it's not a good place to start building positive relationships.(or even just one) I tried it for three years and it just got me down.. but I did meet some interesting people that I'm still friends with to this day however for all the time and effort it takes just to get a response I think that anyone would be way better off meeting people in person. Dr Neder says it better though.. here's a little bit of advice that I saved just in case I needed to hear it again...


Hello!

Since releasing "Being a Man in a Woman's World™", I have changed my stance on Internet dating, and strongly recommend against
it. Many guys complain about
that perspective and say, "Well, I met 50 women just this last year!" My question however is: how many of them met your goals
(sex, a relationship, etc.)?
They're answer is invariably, "Well, no one." That's the way it is with Internet dating - it's a great way to sap your limited
resources (time, money, etc.)
while only giving an ego boost to a bunch of women you'd otherwise never give the time of day!

With that said, you have to realize that women receive anywhere from 200-300 responses ON AVERAGE. The cuter ones can receive
upwards of a thousand or more.
You, my brother, are just one in a thousand! Why should she give you any consideration when she has so many other prospects?

What you interpreted as interest was just her weeding through all of that. You might have sparked her interest in the first few
emails, but didn't "wow her"
on the phone. So, she wrote you off.

Consider this: how much work did you have to go through just to finally get blown off? You had your hopes built up only to have
her play you. Also consider

that women won't tell you "no". That's not the way they work. They'll let you spend all sorts of time and effort and then just
go into hiding, like this one
did. Then, if nobody else pans out (she doesn't find her Prince Charming), she MIGHT come back to you, but then, you still just
one in a thousand again!


My best advice is to stick with in-person pick-ups. They are FAR more likely of success, and you'll be able to weed out the real
women from the posers and

Attention Whores.

Best regards...
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socialdistortion
socialdistortion: "Consider this: how much work did you have to go through just to finally get blown off? You had your hopes built up only to have her play you."

This happens to me when I try to meet someone through more conventional means as well though, every single time. So basically I'm fucked no matter what I do, that's nice to know.
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WilliamGolding
WilliamGolding: While that may be true at least you're still a real person and not just one email in a hundred! I find on dating sites women aren't looking for the reason that you might be the one for them, but instead are looking to find a reason to check you off as just another retard... just a thought though. Another thing to consider is that you have to 'read the signs', try only approaching women that you've already made eye contact with three times.(and even then only approach to see IF there's any interest, and if not then there's no real loss and at least you know. Ya know?
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Ffand
Ffand: @ William - Cynical much?
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WilliamGolding
WilliamGolding: no, but thanks for asking!
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sandi_singh
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beauitfuldiamond
beauitfuldiamond: Hi, Am looking for a good man to date. Where do you think i can go and find one.
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__Kally_
__Kally_: hi..i find these responses interesting and yes..a bit cynical..which i get..but.....i have nvr been on a dating site so i can't speak from experience...but just like on a chat site...u do tend to weed thru and attach urself with ppl that interest you and you gel with...so if you keep it lite and lose the expectations maybe you will look at it different??....some ppl say that there is someone for everyone...well i'm not believing that either lol what about confirmed bachelors and older women that nvr marry???hmmmm.....it's all a matter of being in the right place/right time and ....most importantly with the right attitude...i am a believer that you attract what you put out there...so...put ur best foot forward, be open to new things and enjoy ur life...it's not any more complete then it is right this very moment...waiting for another person to fullfill you is silly....if you find it treasure it and if you don't treasure you... all the best to you.
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vanilla gorilla
vanilla gorilla: In my limited experiences with online dating, I've found to be full of either hookers, horny ugly dudes, or overly sincere women that have no idea that they are in fact talking to a horny ugly dude.
Don't believe the ads on TV.
Online dating is much the same as real life, only you pay someone. If you go out into society, wanting a relationship you wreek of a stench that instictively drives potential partners away....the stench of desperation.
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beauitfuldiamond
beauitfuldiamond: Yes i found wireclub to have lots of horny guys around. Which i don't like. Am looking for a sincere man who will not cheat or ask for money from a lady.
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peladito46
peladito46: williamgolding post rocks totally true!, n yes beautifuldiamond unfortunately thats the reality with guys around chats n dating sites the majority r just looking 4 an easy catch. The believe that internet is anonymus allows many 2 try 2 do the things or 2 be someone that they wont do/arent in real life
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misskeena
misskeena: I've been doing the online dating thing since last May. I've met some really nice people (of course, I'm still single so...) but I don't know if, at this point, I'd recommend it to someone. I found it to be frustrating. To be fair, I think it depends on the person/personality, and I don't feel like it gels with mine.
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beauitfuldiamond
beauitfuldiamond: Yes i have been on for a long time and i still have not found a real man that is serious. All i get are men that just want sex or just want to rip me off for money and i hate all there lies too. When will i find a real man that is good.
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adnanbut
adnanbut: Hi
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chevyman737
chevyman737: Hello everyone
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chevyman737
chevyman737: No use in trying on this site anymore
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