Would you...... Socksy: Ok so I have a great friendship with a guy, we began to bond not long after our relationships ended and I feel I am falling for him and was wondering what would you do.... Would you... (A) Tell him, you are developing feelings for him. (B) Hold back on your thoughts and feeling in fear of losing your friendship Do you think he would understand that I am only telling him how I feel so that he knows or do you think he would feel betrayed? Most importantly I would like to maintain my friendship with him but I value the opinions of others and would love any advise you could offer Thanks   RUBY: Uhhmmm...Hold back on your thoughts and feeling in fear of losing your friendship that is probably what I'd do..unless he'd tell me he has feelings for me as well that would let me go on but if he just shows friendship I'd be scared to lose that so I'd be quiet and not tell him my real feelings for him  (Post deleted by staff ) Quantum Zero31: I know it would likely be completely different after any feelings were expressed, but Id always hope to not lose any friendship after feelings were expressed........ Maybe theres some maturity in that view, but Id hope everyone could be the same Dawn: I've been there, with my best friend. I told him how I felt, he clearly didn't feel the same way. Things got really awkward after that and we never spoke again. Although before that, there was a point when we both had feelings for each other but were too shy to talk about it until it was too late... so it's a tough one. I tend to agree with Joey though. If you're really good friends then saying you like him won't really affect it, or at least shouldn't. You just have to figure out if you're willing to take the risk of losing his friendship for a potential relationship. It may work out though. If you never tell him you'll never know... Socksy: Everyone is giving great advise but I am still not entirely convinced on how to go about it all Quantum Zero31: There IS a kinda safer way to say something!! Suggeast, "Whst IF I had feelings for you?"............... Something along those lines!............ (Post deleted by staff )  Random Jodbug: For starters, are you sure they're actually feelings or maybe they're just there because he's been there for you through your previous break up? Sometimes it's very easy to mistake them when things like happen- they offer you comfort and a helping hand and it's easy to get mixed up in your heart about it. (Not saying this is your case, but just saying in general!) If you're emotionally ready to dive back into the relationship pool, and it isn't as I've said above (because in that situation, he just ends up being the rebound dude), I think you need to tell him how you feel. If you don't, you will always regret it. It will always be "what if" in the back of your head. You'll never know until you try! Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith   harlett anathema: Socksy....Y are You putting pressure upon Yourself ......Didn't you say,You 2 took the pressure off of yourself's,and THEN began too enjoy 1 another in a relaxed state of mind.......SO....ENJOY the Blossoming of Your's 2 Romance... Neither Gender is blind dead & dumb....Both Cherish being Felt for...  Socksy..do you suspect Your overreacting from feeling the from ??? too You....don't measure it,don't categorize it...Just take it in and THRIVE from it together... harlett anathema: no one is daft to WIRE is open too OUR big bad world at large......When folks are connecting with others on the other side of the moon so to speak... a hammering too be closer with..starts.. that hammering can angst a person too death & beyond.....lead too words & attitudes...stemming from... Fights start..break up's happen...bruises that refuse too heal,always hurt too 1 degree or another....Folks that have nothing too do with that Hammering are battered for getting on who is being Hammered nerves.... Having NO expectations from anyone other then yourself too handle those and others pressures.. will see you through it all........ Love whom ever You choose....dislike whom ever you choose.....Just save yourself from thinking and believing it's up too anyone else too manage How you feel,and your reactions too those feelings.... When & if i want more from some 1, i am not.... i take my time too get it....Just as i take my time too get what i want out of something..such as my own membership with-in WIRE.... harlett anathema: what...????............I adore folks........I'm just not some 1 who ever lets anyone who so ever control and dominate over my feelings.....I insist on maintaining a grip.....I can easily be  at over ing my enemies.. to 1 degree or another....& for ing whom ever i will for as long as i exist.......Being a Wire member means having too get a grip over the numerous BONDINGS that occur.. Here i'll use knowing YOU RUBY.....when you haven't posted on your happybirthday thread....I think instantly that Your feeling BLUE.........and just aren't busy...... because ...Your that attentive too everyone's need too be recognized and shout out at... harlett anathema: ANCIENT JEALOUSY meant..too Guard...over Those cared for....Tenderly,Thoroughly... and not this brutish none sense of promoting that some 1 feel inadequate or unwelcome.. or that social bashing of another... that's merely sour bulling.... When we BOND...it's usually for LIFE.....and that persons EXISTENCE is always some where in the back of OUR MINDS....why not always have reasons too CHERISH THEM.... Socksy: I appreciate all your thoughts and was just hoping that Ren would be able to give me an idea as to what he thinks the C option could be OCD It is an online friendship..... Dawn: it doesn't really matter if it's online or irl though... you can't help who you get feelings for. (Post deleted by staff ) (Post deleted by staff )  OCD_OCD: Yes, it does matter because while an online relationship can be intense, it does not and cannot replace the ability to connect completely. | Dating Chat Room 1 Person Chatting Similar Conversations |
