Did Someone Break Your Heart? How Did You Heal? (Page 6)

Searchonglostfrndask
Searchonglostfrndask: I think they are out there the perfect ideal mate for each of us :
I truly believe we may have to commute a little further or travel further :
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& search for the words
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Committed relationships only *
no cheaters *
Serious relationship only *
Wanting serious relationship *
If you like their looks they like yours waste no time
Grab them while you can ..
Don't look back ...
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lauracroft43
lauracroft43: I let myself feel the pain, took my time, and eventually decided I didn't want to feel badly anymore and moved on.
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Me too Search, we have the confidence we just have to pick our heart up of the floor and keep moving.
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Thsts where Im at now Laura the stages be killing me though lol.
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lauracroft43
lauracroft43: I'm sorry plump cherry I'm sure your tough and will get through it though.
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Laura why are you sorry? You didn’t do anything to me to say sorry.

I’m not tougher I’m just ready to get move on.

When I care die people I think should have my love and they abuse it hurt. I know they won’t get love like that no more and they don’t. I try to warn them and that’s the part that hurt. To see what they are going through and can’t do anything to make it better for them.

But then my self pain come in cause after a while I get tired of loving others. Well, I thought I did, but I realized that’s who I am.

And instead of giving all myself to people who clearly don’t want my love until it’s too late I can give ir to someone who can appreciate my love for what’s worth. Me.

I realize I can’t every group of people cause of some people’s basty ways, I can just try to be more careful. I do that by loving me.

And getting positive feed back from people like you to help me grow pass the negativity. I’m just like many other people that’s like me.
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lauracroft43
lauracroft43: I just meant I am sorry you had to go through that. Also that sounds like a great plan of action. I too have felt what it's like to give all you have to someone and they take it for granted, so now I invest my time, efforts, and love into those that are more than honored to reciprocate.
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Thank you.
I think it was a stage I had to go through (a long as stage) in order for me to understand life a little better. A lie of things was unclear to me, and now I have a better understanding. So, I guess I’m grateful I am able to learn from them so I can move forward.

I like your plan of action. Effective.
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lauracroft43
lauracroft43: That is truly amazing! Some people do not learn until it is too late and you are welcome.
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Searchonglostfrndask
Searchonglostfrndask: I still feel that there is someone for everyone: we all fall down get back up again:
we all get out hearts broke and learn from our mistakes or theirs or both
and return to finding the one we can spend the rest if our lives with :
I feel there is some one for everyone :
Being alone for the rest of my life is scarier then a terrifying movie :
If there is someone who is single out there gets along with that person out there for along time and are your opposite sex friend or same sex friends :
Let them know go to dinner and a movie :
Decide what to do with each other
Its to much on a human spirit to be alone


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lauracroft43
lauracroft43: I disagree about the part where you said "it's too much on a human spirit to be alone." This is because some people prefer to be alone because maybe they just don't trust people, don't want to deal with drama, or perhaps they are so comfortable and secure within themselves that the need to have another individual by their side is simply non - desirable.
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Laura, I guess some people feel more secure alone. I can understand that to a point. I can't imagine that it is healthy though, at least not forever. I am alone pretty much, even though I have family. It still doesn't mean I have anyone in my life I can consistently count on. I am alone bc it just worked out that way, not because it was a decision. I used to be okay with that, when I was younger. But as I age, I get a little tired of it. I do wish I had someone I could rely on. That would be nice. I am prepared for that not ever happening though, at least.

I guess I am in the same boat you are, just for different reasons. lol.
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lauracroft43
lauracroft43: That makes a lot of sense. In a way it is almost equivalent to having a bunch of friends of acquaintances yet still feeling alone because you can't trust any of them with the most important things in life. I do have someone I can and do trust however I know that that could change at any moment therefore which is why being alone or having someone isn't a huge deal on my end. However I am sure you will find that person when you east expect it.
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Laura, yes, being alone doesn't really refer to the physical in every case. As long as you have someone you can count on, you're not really alone any time. I wish I did have someone I could trust completely. I only have people I can partially trust. Lol.

I hope you are right about finding that person for me. And I am glad you have found yours and hope it never changes.
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Searchonglostfrndask
Searchonglostfrndask: People who cannot find anyone at all
always says to people who want someone and is not that person always need someone to comfort them :
Make another feel bad for wanting to be with someone :
The ones who are alone with noone :
Is their choice
I know its because they can't be with a person for a long time for whatever reason
If your alone and happy ..good..
If your not happy alone try
I know this because I know my life is sabatoged I know you all are saying sabatoged yes sabatoged my life is sabatoged I'm stuck in places where noone dates and police wont help and missing persons wont help and private investigators ripped me off and still no clue where my male friend I lost contact with is
I know move on with your life find someone else guess what I don't want to ..
Like I said in the beginning your happy alone ...wonderful ...your not happy alone be with the one that makes you happy !
My reply ...The one that makes me happy I can't find...I know.. get over it ...you have to move on ..my reply ... I know and don't want to ... My life is sabatoged ..





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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Being alone is not too much,
For me having ones heart broke is too much.
You invest all of yourself into a person, thinking they are doing as they too say.
You find out you’re they only one doing everything in the relationship to hold it together at the end, to find our your hufhabd dry, and the love was never real and you have to start from scratch again.

But you have first let go of the pain of loosing what you thought was your love, and everything that goes with it.

Many people have and are going though this. Some people are so broke that they actually die from a broken heart.

A broken heart to me is more painful and damag unhealthy than being alone.

You can choose to be alone. You can’t choose to have your heart broken.

The only thing I struggle with is my addiction but my heart get better everyday.
The love of my life me.
Why?
Cause it’s about damn time.

But again everyone is different and choose their own path. To be or not to be.
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Plump, Yes, it's better to be alone than with someone who causes you heart break. I agree.
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Searchonglostfrndask
Searchonglostfrndask: That's why its best to be with the one that makes you happy :
I got stuck here ... I have no way to move anywhere :
If I had my choice I'd be with my friend I lost contact with :
I can't ...& yes I'm going to die of heartache lol!
Hopefully I will move where people want to date socialise and a compatible city to me :
It feels like everywhere I go I'm not in a city that's compatible to me :
Maybe it is the city that makes a person happy and the people in it that is compatible to that person to find the one made for a person : or someone compatible to a person:


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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Maybe. I just decided to focus on myself.
Waiting with no action is a waste. Pluse thinkunf about it a lot didn’t help either.

Well I have studying to do and food to eat. I’ll be back later.
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Searchonglostfrndask
Searchonglostfrndask: Example I love mustard : south Carolina likes mustard : Is that where my love maybe ? Is that where my lost male friend maybe? If I was to move to that city would I find my destiny ..I will not know now because I have very little money :
Maybe one day : I will keep everyone posted on my blog :
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Plumpcherry
Plumpcherry: Sometimes that’s it too. Getting our more or relocating. Not even relocating but moving about.

You’ll be amazed.
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Searchonglostfrndask
Searchonglostfrndask: Yet if a person moves ...and is still single ..and does not want to be ...is that really a persons city .... I want to be in a city where I can find my lost male friend .. And not be single ..to find the one I am compatable with in a city that likes a persons likes and dislikes a persons dislikes is it possible to find a compatable city to find ones destiny ...
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: South Carolina likes mustard?? Like the whole state does??
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Searchonglostfrndask
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Dang, BBQ mustard sounds pretty good, actually. I'd try it.
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