What is marriage, really?

loveistruth
loveistruth: I want to know what people think defines marriage?
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The flying Squirrel
The flying Squirrel: Marrage , Its a convent between a Man and a woman , Before God, To do his will,
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Paul speaks of Marrage , In ephesiains and the Godly order of things
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LoisS
LoisS: I think I need to reevaluate things...Fear of God was never a motivation personally...Is it suppose to be?
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Angry Beaver
Angry Beaver: I don't like that god mummy, he's scary
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Fog Swept Glade
Fog Swept Glade: Marriage is a manner to make known a pact. Such a promise secures harmony. It found its way into villages to keep the rape down & then writing became popular.
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LoisS
LoisS: I guess that was suppose to keep us safe....
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The flying Squirrel
The flying Squirrel: Yeah it is still to some people , Wasn"t all that long ago Devorse was virtually Unherd of
No one used to just shack up with eachother like these days , plus the devorce rate in the westen world is really bad , No wonder society is falling apart
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Marriage has two categories: legal or personal.

Legal marriage is what the state awards you after you meet certain criteria.
Personal is just a lifelong committment between two people.

It's up to the people involved which one they want, but my preference would be to have a personal committment that is also legally recognized.
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Angry Beaver
Angry Beaver: Marriage.. always a dodgy proposition, nobody knows the future
(Edited by Angry Beaver)
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: If you actually love someone, you do know the future. Marriage is only as dodgy as the people in the marriage.
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Angry Beaver
Angry Beaver: Have to disagree, I married my wife, loved her to bits for 30 years, yet she hit late 40's and decided she didn't love me any more and went back to her childhood sweetheart...so, yeah, even if you think you know your future, people have a funny habit of shooting you down by changing their minds and not telling you til it's too late
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Beaver, yes, sometimes we are with the wrong people and don't realize it for a long time. There are always risks. What I said is correct, the marriage is only as dodgy as the people in the marriage. Your wife was the dodgy one.
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Rodger r
Rodger r: What is marriage? A waste of money
You need a price of paper to not act like a dog your doing it wrong
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Spam, you don't have to get a legal marriage to be married. It's up to the people involved what they want.
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Rodger r
Rodger r: Wtf, I'll bite, how do you get married with out legal marriage?
This should be interesting
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Spam, It's not interesting, it's just obvious. You just get married. You have your ceremony, whatever you choose it to be, then you get married. Simple. It will be a marriage to you, but not to the state.
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Rodger r
Rodger r: Then it's not marriage. You didn't have a wedding. You had a fancy dress party
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Spam, Yes, it's marriage. Just not legal marriage. You don't have to meet the criteria of a traditional wedding for it to be a marriage. I could get married to my husband in the woods, in front of the forest animals. If we pledge a lifelong commitment to one another...it would still be a marriage.
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LoisS
LoisS: I hear what youre saying there, but its not a marriage in the eyes of the law. So, if anything were to happen to either of you, and things were not written down and documented and lawyer signed, you might not have any say if your SO is ill or in the Hospital and critical decisions have to be made.
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Lois, yes, legal marriage comes with that perk and if you don't have your marriage legalized, you won't get that perk, or any other perks awared by the state.

I would prefer that my marriage be a commitment that is recognized by my spouse and I in our private way, but also by the state. But some people don't mind not having the state involved, but as we mentioned, this means you give up legality.
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Motati
Motati: Looking at the legal part of marriage, I keep on wondering that maybe, just maybe if marriage was a 5 year contract, it could have worked for most of failed marriages. After 5 years you decide if you want to renew the contract or not.
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Motati, I am not sure that is a good format, but it's probably better than the one we have. If done fairly.
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Motati
Motati: I agree with you Funky, because that's what we are used to. It's just my crazy mind that maybe if couples had that option, it will not put a lot of stress into couples, where you will be shunned by the society when you want out. I agree that this might not be the best option because it can go to the two extremes.

1) Couples can start appreciating each other, and stop taking each other for granted, if they
really want their marriage to work.
2) If any of the two persons are not interested in that marriage, they wouldn't care a hoot to
make it work. They will continue checking on the due date of the contract on their marriage certificate.
In this case even with the way it's done now, they will just frustrate and
disrespect the other party.
(Edited by Motati)
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FunkyBiscuits82
FunkyBiscuits82: Motati, It is one idea that could be tried. Never hurts to see what works. To me, a marriage contract for only five years doesn't seem like a marriage. I would not like that type of thing, but some people might. Nothing wrong with giving people options. Because the way marriage is done now by the state is just kinna bonkers.
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refurbwoodart
refurbwoodart: Well to me marriage used to mean you found someone that you have such a kind loving caring connection with you want to spend your life with them,now its more like well honestly just a way for one person to have a way to threaten the other in some way or form. My ex used to threaten if you dint di this we may as well get divorced,if you dont get that we might as well be divorced.and things of that nature.
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