Why do men find married woman appealing (Page 3) jeffkaspar74: seriously though? why go for someone you can't have. have you ever had someone cheat on you? i flat out couldn't do it. I couldn't be party or participate in something that could potentially cause so much emotional pain if he were to find out. and who would want a woman who cheats? hypothetically say she leaves hubby and you get together? if she cheated on that dude she'll cheat again at some point..... that's a hard pass in my book  mtsjbk: For me, if I notice a cute guy and we start talking, I find myself more attracted to him if he is older, married, and has kids. I like the idea of his commitment and him being responsible.  The giant midget: Wow maybe that's why younger women flirt with me I don't know why I attack younger women (Post deleted by staff ) mtsjbk: I agree, I never hide that I'm married also. And, you are right, guys don't slow down at all if you are married. If a guy approaches me, I would want him to show discretion about me being married.  cutenancy76: I read once that men desire married women 1) because it is fun to take another man's possession, specialy if the man chasing doesn't like the husband, 2) married women have a lot to lose if they are found out, so they are safer than a woman who might get into a man and spoil his marriage [what was that movie about the woman who ruined the guy's life after a one night stand?], 3) a lot of men want any woman who is available and somewhat appealing in looks or personality. Or a combination of the ideas. Not my original idea, but maybe it rings of truth.  straywlf: Nancy every situation is different. I agree it could be any and all of the above. I know it all starts with the look. If a man finds a woman appealing he follows up and moves forward with what he discovers as he goes. Finding out a woman is married for some stops them in thier tracks. Others it adds to the attraction for different reasons. The woman's acceptance makes the difference as to whether things go anywhere. yippeskippy: Married or not, if she's beautiful, sexy, charming, cool-minded, knows her worth and she makes her man happy...selfish men desire this. It's idealistic in nature...but it doesn't take away the fact that any woman who starts out that way and then leaves a good man is pretty stupid and a cheater. If another man does find a way to worm himself between her legs won't respect her later. More than likely he's narcissistic. He'll devalue and discard her and move on to the next married 'hottie' he wants to bang. straywlf: Finding a woman appealing and moving on the idea of it is 2 different parts of the equation. Just because I find a woman appealing doesn't mean she's going to drop down and do what you are assuming she will. Everyone has thier beliefs. That is thier choice. Not anyone's place to judge. Admiring a woman because of her wonderful traits is not a bad thing cutenancy76: I can see both ideas in the discussion above. I was surprised to find out just recently that husbands allowing, even encouraging wives to be with other men is a popular fantasy, and a real lifestyle. It is called "cuckolding". Also can be dangerous to judge. I knew a man who had an ongoing affair. Turned out his wife had severe Multaple Sclerosis, and she understood his need. He was very devoted to his wife otherwise. Life and Love are certainly complicated! The giant midget: Different strokes for different folks I suppose Men mostly have the fantasy of their wife's / /girlfriends in a bedroom relationship with another female companion and us guys watching / participating aka Threesomes that hardly happens unless the female partner is in full control of the scenario. In a cockold adventures is that the husbands / boyfriend has lost that alpha male charge aggressive sexual behaviour or fully lost the appetite for his partner but more curious on what the other male is using to satisfy his mate and even helping out the wife /girlfriend to give the male the ultimate pleasure wacouple64: To me there is nothing wrong with it.. but also have to say alot of med dont know how to talk to a woman well let me say they choose to be rude and use bad choices or words talking,,, they trailer trash talk thinking that turns a woman on.. and i guess if your that type then ok but most women find it a turn off and rude cutenancy76: I do thing giant midget has a good point. I read long ago that a sexual preference which is not physically dangerous, includes consent, and does not involve minors (minors are not yet ready or capable of giving informed consent) should be considered good sex if the person or persons find pleasure in it. I actually had the opportunity to speak to a man who wants his wife with another man, and I learned that the activity is not what i thought. He said he would truly find the experience worthwhile. simontemok: I have considered that all sex should be considered good sex if the person or persons find pleasure in it.. Other peoples morals not involved are irrelevant ...... Stoning doesn't happen here |
