Why do men find married woman appealing (Page 5)

cutenancy76: I have read that for some men, a married woman is MORE appealing as a "safe" affair because she has a lot to lose: marriage, family, respect and financial support. I have seen a few marriages where both partneres agree to allow sex-only relations with other people and even one where the man "allowed" the woman to have discreet relations with other men.

straywlf: You're right Nancy it is different for everyone. Open relationships where both partners are open about see others. Some are one sided and there are even cuckold relationships out thier. We all have our own ways. I believe it its best when 2 people find a connection with each other. Whether they are married or not it in the chemistry. Sometimes when one is married it does add to the excitement but they still have to have a personal connection to make it good

cutenancy76: A few years ago my husband and I were trying to have a baby but we found out he was not able to make adequate sperm. We tried the in vitro thing twice but were unsuccessful. We also had run out of money for the medical because insurance would not cover. Finally myhusband consented to having a friend impregnate me the old fashion way. At first it was rough on my marriage relation but in the end it made us more trusting and caring.

TheXCepsion: least You both worked it out and are good with it.

cutenancy76: Yes. It is surprising how a relation can not only survive but grow.

TheXCepsion: true, both have to work at it..

BGKYGUY: CuteNancy...you're husband is a good man to recognize that your child was still conceived by your love for each other. I mean that very sincerely. God bless such a strong commitment to love.

simontemok: I have impregnated several married women who's husbands were totally unaware and raised them. everyone got what they wanted.

margazhere: I am attracted to my best friend's Dad. I sometimes fantasize about him.

straywlf: Margaz that is not unusual but out of curiosity is it his looks or his mannerisms that attracts you.
I'm betting he likes your look for sure.

margazhere: He is very cute and he keeps himself fit. He is a very nice man and he always treats his wife and his family very well. I have noticed he checks me out and he sometimes is a little flirty. I like his attention. He and I have never been alone together. I sometimes wonder if he ever thinks about me and if he does, what his thoughts are. Did you read my profile?

straywlf: Yes I have

The giant midget: There's nothing wrong with fantasizing or having a admiration for another person.,regardless of age difference,ethnicity,social status gender, marital circumstances.its all irrelevant.
It makes us feel good about ourselves.
It's dreamers of dreams dreamers

margazhere: I just sometimes wonder if he would approach me.

straywlf: It depends on the signals he gets and what it is he thinks will happen.

margazhere: Like I said, there has been some flirting.

The giant midget: It takes 2 to tango
It could transform into a great secretive relationship,considering both marital status
As long as both parties are willing to enjoy themselves without any harm forthcoming to the spouses and offsprings.
No harm ,no fowl
Sometimes it's worth to go the extra mile out of everyone mutual areas ,away from preying eyes .etc
Specifically in small towns that everyone knows everyone and everything

Jonah_Kyle: Sorry, it's been awhile but wanted to post to @margazhere: Sometimes the level of flirting is innocuous when he knows that his daughter and you are friends. And it is natural to fantasize of such an encounter; I've written erotica with a theme very close to yours. But what it comes down to is this: If he's happy with his wife and his daughter (your friend), then he will most probably always keep everything close to his family. He may fantasize about you (I probably would if I were him), but he knows that even if a consummation could be made of the fantasy, there is always that fear that she may spill the secret to your daughter, or worse, that she can come out later and feel ashamed about it and confess to his wife. When I write erotica, I actually go to the emotions of such meetings, not just the lusty parts.

Yet, I know how fantasies can be, particularly about this. But in my opinion, he's thinking the very thoughts I emanated above. There is way to break through, though, and get him to a level where he would feel safe to approach an encounter with you, but it involves more than simple flirtation. It involves becoming his "friend" as well, and talking to him about innocuous subjects without overt flirting. Do this enough times over the course of a month, then one night call him out of the blue (when you know he's not with his wife or daughter) and just ask about something you chatted about in one of your earlier subjects, and if he has time to "expand" on it.

Chances are talking to him, alone like this, enough times will allow him to feel more "natural" with you, and if you take it easy, one time suggest meeting for lunch sometimes to talk about one of the subjects more. Go to a place guaranteed not to meet wife or daughter or anyone in your circle, then from there let him make his moves. This is probably the best way to see if he's interested without overtly being sexual in your intentions.

Finally, if it does come to pass that an encounter is imminent, go out of town to a place you know is safe, and experience your encounter. Once the weekend is over talk frankly with him and see where you want to go, but I would keep the relationship at a casual leval at that point.

EDIT: I want to also add that if you DO the encounter with him, then you realize that you may have to withhold it from your friend, whom you may have a close relationship with where you discuss other dates, relationships, even sex; but you can't tell her anything about her dad and you. This emotional feeling is nothing to be aloof about, it may wear on you. However, you should mentally gauge your own feelings before your encounter. If you feel emotionally unstable enough to be with your girlfriend without feeling constantly guilty or remorseful, then keep her daddy as a fantasy and don't ruffle the feathers. This isn't just about adultery, but about the entire family dynamic.

craig_rodgers_09: Margaz I would approach you it's probably a ball ache for your mates dad not to

simontemok: margazhere: we need to chat

allisonzhere: My brother in law flirts. I am flattered by his attention.

straywlf: Flirting can be a form of flattery. It can also be a way to express a desire for taboo adventures. Careful how you handle things. That close to home it can turn bad quickly.

allisonzhere: I understand. It is very risky and dangerous. He and I have never been alone together. My husband, my sister, or my parents have always been around.

simontemok: allison you have to plan it so it happens

simontemok: Allison I have a plan