Married but no sex (Page 2) BGKYGUY: In my case, my beautiful wife knew no limits to pleasure....until she walked into her son and only child's bedroom and found him dead at 26. That will understandably put the brakes on....hard. Then she had her hips replaced, one got infected with Mersa and I almost lost her. Health hasn't been good since. I think that my vows spoke to this possibility. Fortunately our relationship is strong enough that she encourages and even arranges for me to utilize part time help. As I would for her. 17 years and not getting any younger. I will be keeping her.  paulrea7: If she aint having sex with you,personally,id be dumping her. Il bet anything you have most likley kept her happy by paying most of the bills,house,car etc for her over the years so its up to her to put the effort in to keep you happy.What gives her the right to expect you to protect and provide for her while she sits back and does nothing? Shes a woman who thinks shes entitled ,and this is the reason more and more men are not marrying plus they also know if it goes to divorce,the way the law is,shes gonna screw you over sensless $$! Thats the cold hard truth. Its a win win for the women and the key is...dont get married.  simontemok: I met a married woman in the same situation as me, we are still with our partners but just meet for secret sex, are there others?  hairy53: my sex life stopped right after we had our son, wife had put on weight and had no desire. I told my buddy this and he brought me into the world of swinging with he and his wife. my wife worked on weight loss and got her body back plus her desires again, plus she was willing to get involved with bud and his wife. we never looked back . it's amazing how many want to try new things. many in sexless marriages' alot of the older where either the guy or wife will play or even both to try new. even trying Bi for both. we all want to have fun and no love sex is great  paoftwo: My wife was always big from her teens, but after a sexless marriage (she got sick of her ex putting it in, pumping a few times, cumming, pulling out and going to sleep she stopped letting him) to have her urges filled by me was wonderful for her. Still took me 4 years to get her to swing, and her self confidence was boosted by seeing the reaction her photos had when I shared them on cam with men as she watched from the side. We swung for about 8 years, mainly bi guys so we could both play, but then the menopause hit and her body image crashed again.  joshbennett082: We like to find men who don't get it and I get them to come over and the rest is as you know it  triggs1126: 12+ years without any sort of physical relationship with my wife. Early on, I had hope that things might have changed and that she would at least put forth some interest in being with me. I would always initiate and make sure I finished her orally before we moved to traditional sex. She really wasn't into penetrative sex of any kind (fingers, cock, toys) because it felt too intrusive. The very. last time we did it, as i finished, she gave me this horrified look that has been burnt into my brain since. We had initially discussed the absence of our physical relationship and she would apologize for never wanting or having sex with me. That didn't help, it actually made it worse for me. I had to live without that intimacy AND I had to listen to justification after justification as to why I had to live without it. I finally gave up caring and would like to say that I've moved on, but since I'm writing this, i suppose that wouldn't be the truth. I know that sex is only one aspect of a relationship, but when its removed, it causes deeper issues. For me, it has created self doubt, depression, sadness, long standing frustration, and more. I'm sure i'm not alone in this. I believe both men and women are affected similarly. I would just like to put out there that if you are the person in the relationship that is denying your partner an active sexlife, you need to be better. Do better. Take into consideration the damage that you can do to a person that you are supposed to care for. I hate the idea of duty or maintenance sex, but you do owe it to the person that committed to you. Act like you enjoy it and are into it if you have to. Squeeze him tight when he cums. Tell her that she was the best she has ever been this time. Good Luck and play safe, rant over...  MandiSoCali: that was so cool... I feel sorry for you that this is happening to you, you seem so nice... I hope it gets better for you.  (Post deleted by pittm1220 ) (Post deleted by pittm1220 )  karlball777: 57 yrs old, married 30yrs and since the menopause my wife lost all interest in sex, went from high - 3sums etc to nothing...been 15yrs for me and I couldn't hold off so found someone in discrete a couple of years ago, had no choice as I was so depressed. hairy53: it kinda sucks when 1 partner stops with sex, wife and i have many married play with us ,either fem or male pittm1220: Karlball 777 I understand what you mean my wife and I were into threesomes in group fun and she had a hysterectomy several years ago so it’s not that she wasn’t interested it’s mostly and she said it was painful during sex the stuff that the doctor gave her to help relieve the pain did not really help now she has ongoing severe back problems, so it has been about three years for me nothing hairy53: thats too long for no sex, even when my wife had issues with that she would still want to join, even just for oral |
