WOULD YOU ATTEND YOUR CHILD'S GAY WEDDING? (Page 2) SunshineDeb: no one knows the cards that we will be dealt in life. our best chance for survival and peace is to love and accept others as they are.  uglycow10: From the point of view of a parent. I am sure that it leaves one quite torn.If it is not something that the parent embraces, how does one, in good faith and conscience seemingly lend support to a situation, which to believe in, even a little. goes against their very moral fiber On the other hand, to not join in and celebrate one of the most important days in your child's life...the most important day to him/her, anyway, makes the parent solely responsible for putting a damper on the occasion and disappointing their child. And yes, I said child because even though your offspring be adults...they will forever be your children. Those of you who are parents will understand my logic. I am not sure if Brad's comment meant :"To all of you people who refuse to conform and accept the gay thing, and that gay is here to stay...WHO FREAKING CARES!!!!!?" Or, if he meant: "Enough with the gay stuff.We are tired of it all...WHO FREAKING CARES!!!?" EITHER WAY, THOSE ARE THE TWO SCHOOLS OF THOUGHT. It is what it is, and people feel what they feel. That having been said, the net effect is that, once all is said and done, if all parties are not of one accord, there will be bruised feelings on "either side of the aisle", so-to-speak.  wayne elliott: That's right - "who freaking cares." The marriage of two people of the same sex makes no difference to the lives of anyone else. The religious assertion that it's "against Gods will" is simply an excuse used to justify ignorance and discrimination. Since sexuality is not a choice (unlike bigotry and religion) and that it is present throughout the animal kingdom, I would argue that it is natural and any Creator created it that way. I would suggest that a parent that rejects their child because of their sexuality and boycotts their wedding because of this will eventually regret it when they discover that sexuality just doesn't matter. It's just one piece of the incredible mosaic that is human life in this realm of learning. SunshineDeb: Well the thing is, I know of a parent who does not approve of their adult child's lifestyle and as a result will not go to their house. The shame of that is that on holidays the kids cannot have certain holidays at their house. They have to go to the parents house, or not see them. And the kids value the parents enough that they will not do that. Unfortunately the parent is wielding their power and getting their way. And really that is a lack of respect for their adult children. Fortunately the kids respect their parents enough that they go along with it. And that's just a minor thing I know, but always knowing that you are disapproved of by someone, especially a parent or your child, well that's in your mind all the time when you think of that person. It's such a bad seed to plant in a relationship, and you cannot grow in a relationship when there's always that wall between you. You have the right to have these opinions and hold onto your own values and beliefs. But they are your own values and beliefs, and should not be imposed on others even your adult children. But it's really so judgmental, and just not wise to act upon those feelings and distance yourself from those adult kids. If a parent spent 18 years or more rearing those kids and getting close to those kids, why would a person purposely build a wall between themselves and those kids they worked so hard to nurture into a fully functioning adult? I don't think people realize just how much damage that kind of thing does to the adult children. just my thoughts.  brad1985: MY COUSIN WAS GAY AND I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO SUPPORTED HER ABOUT HER DECISON AND THE REST OF THE FAMILY TURNED THIERS BACK ON HER EXPECT ME SO SHE FELT SO HURT AND BETRYED SHE KILLED HER R.I.P. EMMA I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU FOREVER AND HOPEFULLY YOU FOUND PEACE WHERE EVER YOU ARE uglycow10: I wholeheartedly agree with you Deb. I think that both parties have an absolute right to be disappointed. The parents: because their expectations, hopes and dreams for their child are all dashed because he/she turns out to be gay....and the children:because they don't get that unconditional support from their parents I refuse to judge either side because it is difficult all around,and none of us can control the feelings and emotional reactions of anyone else. It just is, what it is. I just returned from a wedding where the mom had made it known that she was not going to be in attendance, but subsequently changed her mind and surprised her son, who was beyond thrilled to see her.She had finally arrived at the conclusion that even though she totally disagreed with the lifestyle, that as his mom, she would stifle her conflicted emotions and just go support him on his special day. . He cried when he saw her. His partner's family was out in full force, supporting their boy !!!! At the end of the day, she made the emotional sacrifice for her boy, and as loving parents, that is what we do for our children. We are always called upon to make those unexpected and impromptu sacrifices....and we do it , as a matter of course. It was a bang-up, tres- fab wedding....and a good time was had by all.  patpitt65: Ofcourse I would be uncomfotable I will admit but If I have done my job he is a good man and hopefully finds someone who will treat him right. I dont see how I could not be there SunshineDeb: brad, you will see your cousin again.. I am so very very sorry for your loss, hon. and I'm so sorry for the emotional pain that your cousin had to go thru. you will see your cousin again. uglycow10: i CAN ONLY SAY THE TRUTH ....BRAD! I hate flying because i was in a plane crash & therefore, I fly on "need to fly basis"....this turned out to be one of them! I attended the wedding and it was a tres fab gala..... I have a friend who, as I write this, is in the throes of death. It is just the other day that we were all little, giddy teenagers and now old age and the prospect of death have arrived...way too quickly. So I say, live life, love life and do whatever it is that makes you happy...once you are not inflicting harm on anyone.... Whose life is it anyway??? peace  Aura: Doing Cross Fit is a lifestyle. Falling in love and getting married isn't a lifestyle, it's building your life. | Off Topic Chat Room
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