Did someone break your heart? How did you heal? pixeechikk: Looking for a few stories, about romance and heartbreak. How did you meet? How did they hurt you? Did you leave them, or did they leave you, and why? Did you get over them, or just learned to live without them? Did you seek revenge, or did you just move forward in peace? Did you find a new love? Do you think you can be friends with your X? How did you get through and over the pain of the heart break? Please share your story. (Edited by pixeechikk)  calybonos: I had a puppy love crush when I was ten years old Her name was Lisa Janine, she lived across the road I caught her with a Cub Scout in a little blue hat They were pushing each other on the swing out back I remember how it almost killed me How could she do me like that I never thought I'd be the same But now I look back and I laugh If I can get over her I can get over you It's just gonna' take some time These things they always do Even though she left scars on my heart Time has healed the wounds If I can get over her I can get over you I took my high school sweetheart to the senior prom She went off to college and I stayed on the farm I had a broken heart and some fences to mend I knew I'd never hold her again But I saw her today in the paper Smiling in her wedding dress I sent her a card and a blender And I wished her all the best If I can get over her I can get over you It's just gonna' take some time These things they always do Even though she left scars on my heart Time has healed the wounds If I can get over her I can get over you I met a girl online who picked up the pieces of my heart Gave me the courage to make a brand new start She seemed so perfect, everything I could wish Until I found out, it was a damn catfish Dumped "her" first this time In hopes I'd break this streak Off a bridge with the rest In the cold dark creek If I can get over her I can get over you It's just gonna' take some time These things they always do Even though she left scars on my heart Time has healed the wounds If I can get over her I can get over you You just gotta keep on swinging. It's all a numbers game  pixeechikk: Please tell me about it.... or if you do not feel comfortable, please pm me... maybe I can help in some way. pixeechikk: Because, it is one of the subjects in life no one discusses. People bond with someone, and when it is over, your brain can comprehend it, but the heart can not. There is nothing worse than to have your heart broken, although it is no ones fault. People change and evolve, and sometimes it means saying good bye to someone you once loved, trusted and became a friend with. I am curious as to how people get over a broken heart. My son once told me, people don't get over each other, they just learn to live without them.  davidk14: . I never got over my first broken heart. It affected me for my entire life. Some say that I should have moved on. I did. However, I never did find that love of my life that surpassed that first love 45 years ago. davidk14: . It was a type of true love that I never could find again. We had a connection and yet, the reason we broke up was because her family would not accept me because of my religion. If this relationship happened to me today, we would be married...without question. It was a sign of the times back then. Some have told me that if the love we had was strong enough, we would have overcome the barrier. Perhaps they are right. pixeechikk: I don't think so. Family means a lot, and the thought of losing an entire family for a love can be terrifying for most people. So don't think that person didn't love you enough. They were probably scared to lose everything that they knew from birth. It is very unfortunate that the time set the tone for religions to stay seperate.  wildrose62: My first love died when I was in my teens - he had acute lymphacytic leukaemia, and died during chemo from complications. It was sudden and unexpected and there was no time to say goodbye. sounds cliched, but it left a big hole, like a numb spot that wouldn't go away. I met other men, but it was never the same, there was always this ease of being together that was missing. It felt forced. He was a hard act to follow. Later, I met the man who was to be my first husband. At first, something just clicked. He was quite different to other men I'd known - a free spirit who did what he wanted and refused to be bullied into doing things other people expected of him. He was quite addictive in a way to someone like me who had come from a disciplinarian family. My parents tried to break us up. Eventually I was given an ultimatum... and left home to be with him just a few weeks after finishing school. For many years it was good - we loved each other, and liked to be with each other. We had three daughters. Somewhere, after maybe 15 years together, I realised that what we had once had was going away, and somehow I'd missed it. Maybe it was going to university - he didn't like me being financially independent of him, maybe with the education, I changed myself, and he stayed the same. We didn't talk about it, it just happened. One day I decided to move into the study. Then I opened my own bank account and took my name off the joint one. Keeping him happy seemed like hard work, and we were definitely not equal contributors in the relationship - it was very one-sided. I had begun to resent him. One day, 25 years into the relationship,after a serious, life threatening health crisis, I looked at him and thought, "do I want to spend another 25 years with this person?" We talked about it. It was civilised and we were both fine with it. We talked to the kids about it and reassured them. We decided not to sell the house - that he would keep it, and I would start again. And you know what? it was okay. None of my kids hate me, or him. They're not damaged. He still comes here for Christmas and it's good. We are grandparents now. I was alone for many years after that and didn't mind. I became very independent and realised that I didn't NEED a man in my life. When I met my partner, somehow I found that thing I'd lost..... that ease of being with someone who you never have to second guess, who you can be completely honest with, who I'm totally myself with, and who doesn't try to make me someone I'm not. I hope to grow old with him. pixeechikk: Wildrose, thank you so much for such a heart warming, story. Reading this, it gives one the hope to someday love again, after losing someone we cared for and loved very much. I wish you all the love you hope for in your new life partner. Be happy, and enjoy. wildrose62: I wish you all the luck in the world.... and david, I felt that way too, but it can happen twice, so try not to block that possibility with the ideal you have in your head - I know how hard that can be, but it's worth it. There are amazing people out in the world and some of them cross our path and some become our friends, and sometimes a miracle happens and you find that one who can be your best friend and something more.  Touchable1: A few times yes, and I didn't really, you just learn to accept they're gone, 1 dying made it slightly easier, but the heart never forgets. What helps is usually they change how they are with you and you get to see the real person who pretended they were someone else while they liked you. THAT makes it much easier to forget them  Sage of Bryan: I once was engaged to a hometown girl. While I was in the Navy and overseas, I received the famed Dear John letter. I was crushed. I was also six-thousand miles away and could do nothing about it. Several months later, I arrived back at my home port, San Francisco. By this time, I no longer felt any pain. I went home on leave and there found out my ex girl friend was divorced and living in southern California. I didn't care. About six years later, I was living with my sister and brother-in-law. He and I were driving logging truck. Out of the blue, my sister gets a letter from my ex girl friend. She had a five year old child and was living with her parents in our home town. We made a date to meet over coffee. This home town was about four hours away. Comes a week-end and I drove the four hours and we met. It was a polite meeting. We discussed this and that and other niceties. I felt no sparks for her anymore. All romantic feelings were gone. We parted company and I left. I can't say that I did anything to get over my heart-break. Time did the healing. That old adage, "Time heals everything" was true in my case. (Edited by Sage of Bryan)  smfournier10: Together for 10 years. Engaged. This June. For a couple years I asked that we get help. I called the wedding off and she called the relationship off. Pain beyond anything. She tore into. Told all are friends I was a slut and drug abbuser. Never once cheated. So in love with her I didn't want anyone else. Yeah I smoked pot. She hacked everything. Emaila, bank everything. Then one day I had a moment of morel delema. I had our computer so I hacked back. Facebook messenger to be more specific. She was sending out masturbating videos and having three ways with our friends. Had about 5 different partners. It had been years for us. But she definitely was ready to rebound. We still talk and I seriously need help. Why every day do I want to see her and talk and say I love you because I do. And after everything I know I'm a giant pile of crap. I'm no man. Never had the right to be with her anyway. I'm banning live from my life forever MJ59: You can't feel responsible for the grief another causes you. I was with my wife 30 years, had 3 daughters and (I thought) a loving, stable marriage. Comes the late 40's and "change of life" She ups and leaves me for the fat prick who knocked her up as a 15 yr old in school, her "childhood sweetheart  " Her parents had it aborted and moved.Because as she said, she always wondered "what if". Here's a good idea, dont marry a person if your heart was never really in it. I was totally gutted for around 6 years, wasn't much good for anything, but slowly I clawed my way back to sanity and here I am 13 years later and I could care less if she died lol Having the kids stay with me was also a major boost towards getting my shit back together If you know you did no wrong, you should never feel guilt. smfournier10: Everyone does wrong. Just depends who's watching. Leaves me in a strange place. I'm not gay and I'm not um.. interested (saying it nice) in women.  LoisS: " I know I'm a giant pile of crap. I'm no man. Never had the right to be with her anyway. I'm banning live from my life forever"....<<-- Jeez dude, dont be so hard on yourself. Just because things dont work out doesnt mean there is no hope, ever. LoisS: Sorry to read about that Beaver. Glad you got yourself back together and are building more dams.....(Yes, I did just say it) ..  sinch791: Jesus Christ lolol I love carol way to much sometimes I can't even cry I wonder why she keeps whorein n herself aroound I can't understand why was it because of her marriage could be live together off and on for 7 years sex was unreal none of her kids are mine went separate ways tho we live in the same town I never stopped talking to her friends I'd like to be we still cruse together nowsometimes I can let her go sometimes I can't broken heart fuck it's more then broken but no secrets between us that's how I can handle this my best friend but she don't feel the same way I guess she will never notice love will never notice pain will never feel the way I do for you Can't stop loving a friend | Off Topic Chat Room Similar Conversations |
