Can life have meaning if your dreams are unattainable? GrimWeeper: I'm quite new to this site, stumbled upon it by google searching "life is a joke". There are actually some very smart posts here. I'm 100% convinced that what I want in life is unattainable. How does one continue life in the face of this?  GrimWeeper: Actually, my dream is to be content and happy in my life. However circumstances in my life have given me every indication that this is in no way shape or form ever going to happen. I didn't just reach this conclusion overnight. I've tried every avenue I could. I really think it's due to things in life that I have no control over, such as my socioeconomic status ect. I've been trying SO hard to find beauty and appreciation in other things in life like my job (which is actually a job most people would love), art, friends, recreation, ect. None of it matters to me. I just don't care because everyday bleeds into the next and they're all the same. And I watch all my friends and siblings who are younger than I having families of their own and it fills me with a soul crushing emptiness.  Comrade_: What is it you wanted? I have different ones...some are unattainable but my main ones are attainable and continuous. There's more to life than trying to attain something from it though, there are things that one gains by just living it, the thing is..it's not limited even if we have one goal in mind there are more things out there. (I apologize if my wording is mixed up but I can go in depth into what I mean if anyone doesn't understand) natowar: We all have a great deal of control over how we choose to view ourselves and the attitude that we take in moving forward with our lives. If you want to play a guitar or have a flat tummy you can't have it in one day. Everything takes work. How does one find love and peace? By doing what you love to do the most and being as good at doing it as you can. Pursue your passions. By taking whatever steps you need to to allow yourself to do what you enjoy the most you will begin to better yourself. I believe in devout pursuit of your passion that a byproduct will be other pieces of your life will begin to fall into place and your path will lay itself out before you. Sash Ria: I agree with what natowar says. We sometimes get to a point where we feel overwhelmed and out of control, when in reality there are few things we actually cannot control. Most things in life are obtainable, granted some might be easier than others, but that just makes the end result so much sweeter. I do wonder though that as a species in general is there ever a point when we are completely content. We set our minds on something, almost obsess over it, go for it, succeed, then on to the next challenge. Such is life I guess. Sarcastic Dots: I'd argue that attaining what you want, or lacking goals, makes life fruitless. I subscribe to the notion that life is redeeming because the overwhelmingly bad experiences make us more appreciative of the few goals we do meet.  ZeroApoc: Happiness comes 'inspite' of everything. We are the only thing we can control. Trying to control anything external to ourselves will certainly bring misery. Be happy just to be happy. That is the only way to be happy. No one can control you or your emotions except if you give control to them or your circumstances. It is hard but simple. Simply...be...happy. Biggest secret to life. Nathaniel Nirvana: Life doesn't have any meaning but that doesn't mean it's not worth living. My grandparents used to say what matters now won't matter in say 10 years time, what you craved for as a child for instance is not what you want out of life as an adult, goals & dreams change Inhumancannonball: It's not getting what you want, it's wanting what you got. That said, things like your socio-economic status can change, for good or ill. Having a family can change also. These things can be striven for and achieved. But at what cost? Life does indeed have meaning, and it can be found in the oddest places. Sometimes not getting what you want is precisely what you need.  the real slim DEEPy: why even have goals? do you really think, that after the sense of accomplishment wears off, that they will keep you happy. no, you will just want higher goals. "success is being happy at what you do", not doing something miserable in able to obtain your goals. your goal shouldnt include things that cost money, they should include a job, and a life, that you enjoy, even if it doesnt make you rich and allow you to climb everest or go to paris. Deepesh_Nambiar: @GrimWeeper: Lets put it this way, since the time we are born; we were not born with tasks or dreams to be attained. As every need of a human comes through his/her surrounding nature, other peoples achievements or life style; and this fuels up the "dreams". If we can keep our expectation simple, neither high nor too low, wake up morning to see that you make yourself useful for yourself and for others, it will keep you happy. Maintaining status of life simple despite more earnings makes less complications in life. If you look across the world, everyone wants a big fat wedding for instance, they spend a huge savings of theirs for the D day and struggle to maintain balance of life after that, this in turn creates sadness, misery, disharmony between the couples and finally a divorce lawyer to sum up everything. So keep things simple and if you get something more for being simple, take it as a bonus! What I noticed here is you hate the thought of being alone which is bothering you to a great extent as you know your socioeconomic status doesn't look all the way satisfying and you may be thinking that there is no one who can uplift you from this, wherein there are also your siblings or friends who had been lucky enough to get someone in their life to get out of the same situation you are facing. GrimWeeper, you are ONLY 22.... and yet you think too deep at this moment of life, if you want to know the true meaning of life and what needs to be done in life, catch up with those people who are way double your age and ask them how they perceived life and what they learnt, you will come to know what matters the most at the end of time. As for love, every person has someone in this world, even if you say no to love, it will find you. Take care xiexie18: You are looking for outside sources, evidence and prof of happiness. The only place happiness is created and stored is inside yourself. 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