LilMissAlexandria: I was approached by a guy about 6am while walking my dogs saying became im trans my homosexual agenda is to doom humanity and he gave me a plamphet about curing myself
What do i do
he seemed very sure of himself
lavendar_star: Nothing, you cant really changes someone who has a firm held beliefs, bigotry or prejudices and if he has a pamphlet than he is probably a member of one those Christian anti gay sects so his ideology is reinforced by the other members. The only way people like this change if they get to know someone who is gay or transgender and can see that they are real people just living their lives and being themselves. This conspiracy is out there on the Internet mainly spread by race hate or extremist religious organisations along with other crazy conspiracies. As crazy as it seems just smile at him, I'm so not religious but the saying love thy enemy has a ring of truth about it.
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Emily just Emily: Have pamphlets on hand to return, describing how he can cure himself of his fucking idiocy.
Or be even more sure and convincing that he HAS to be gay otherwise he wouldnt be out hasseling people in an effort to keep himself in denial about his lust for huge, slightly curved, throbbing cock.
Zanjan: Here’s what you do - always be positive and use the experience to your advantage.
When I was 15, walking down the street, a complete stranger came up to me and told me how awful I looked smoking (cigs) on the street - not like a nice girl….she said I looked “Hard”. I'd never thought about it until then but she was right, actually. Nobody goes up to you like that unless you stick out like a sore thumb. Well, I wasn’t hard, and didn’t want to give that impression – I took the hint and never smoked on the street again.
So, look at it this way...if he recognized you as a homosexual trans, shouldn't that tell you something about your appearance? Was that the look you were aiming for?
Seriously, I don't know how you were dressed but if you want more fem, you need to make it more believable. Judging from your picture….sorry, that get up is just dowdy. Don’t you want to look nice?
Zanjan: There's nothing to be afraid of except showing too much skin - you'll just draw the riff raff and raised eyebrows. One of the most attractive dressers I ever saw was married woman of the Sikh religion..she was about 40 years old and every bit of her was covered except her hands and face. She was breath-taking!
Well, I hope you don't mind if I give you a few fashion rules to go by:
#1. NEVER, EVER wear socks with a skirt, unless it's a tennis outfit.
Loose the socks and loafers, ok?
Decide if your lower legs and knees are actually good enough for a shorter skirt - they should be smooth, not lumpy or fat. Shaved, please. Do either of these - wear nylons and open-topped dainty shoes, or......no nylons but a 3/4 length skirt with either light sandals or soft cloth flats.
DONT ever wear anything shiny - that's for skinny chicks, seriously - don't do it, it will make you look like a partially de-flated balloon. DONT wear a belt - same thing.
If you need a raincoat, get a nice trench with very light, flowing material of colour and dress it with a long throat scarf.
Lose the handbag.....invest in a side-shoulder strap purse..something chick, in proportion to your height. Go to a stylist and do something with that hair.......it doesn't suit you, trust me!
Apply body care - do nightly exercises on the jowls...we get old fast enough, no need to beg the cholesterol to gather where it doesn't belong.
We all need a little help now and then - it's ok to ask a person with style to dress you (asians and middle easterns have notoriously superb taste and eye for colour) then go out for coffee together.
What you look like on the outside loudly advertises how you feel about yourself - respect yourself and start looking fabulous!
Zanjan: Alexa.....a woman would wear slacks to hide the bandage. The premise for dignity of presentation is not to draw unnecessary attention to yourself as it raises too many questions.
Years ago, I had a very painful physical disorder but I plugged through my day and various functions with a brave face. Nobody said anything. As the disorder worsened, I had trouble walking so I had to start using a cane. WELL! People were falling all over me, so sympathetic, so fawning, so much "pity" in their eyes!
Yuck....it was so distracting, always having to explain myself, talking about my illness, which was nobody's business. I felt like I was the one who had to tend to *their* illness. I wanted to talk about important things. Thank God I got my health back, the cane went into the closet and conversation returned to normal!
I mean, they meant well but it's not pleasant to watch people around you acting abnormally towards you.
Zanjan: Why not? Every woman has them. You need to be prepared for every occasion....like, cleaning the toilet.....working out, biking, windy days. Buy a cotton pair with comfy elastic waist then slip on a long pullover, reaching to the upper thigh. Dress up the top if going out.
There's a solution for everything within your grasp.
stones1975: i use these rules..
if youre showing leg, dont show boobs
if youre showing boobs, dont show legs
if your lips are dramatic , go easy on the eyes
if your eyes are dramatic, go easy on the lips
i would have told that guy to go tell all the straight people to stop making gay babies
Zanjan: Give suitable room. Clothes were never meant to be a second skin or a window - they're worn for protection. Tight pants on anybody is very disconcerting. It's not necessary or comfortable.
Stassi SUR: A prime example of what-not-to-wear.
A total fashion makeover is highly recommended.
Most gays that I know of are quite fashionable.
Jodbug: I think that it's quite irrelevant what she was wearing, although it is kind of you all to give her fashion advice and tips.
I think it's rather sickening. Alexa wasn't centered out because of her clothing, she was centered out because she is transgendered. A person wouldn't walk up to a poorly dressed woman or man with a pamphlet and tell them that they were condemned for being male or female or straight. In this scenario, she wasn't calling attention to herself by her clothing, she was out in the early morning walking her dog while nobody was around! This is straight up bigotry at it's finest.
Alexa, you're lovely just as you are. But you really ought to get some pants, woman! Lol. They'll make your life a whole lot easier!
Zanjan: "A person wouldn't walk up to a poorly dressed woman or man with a pamphlet and tell them that they were condemned for being male or female or straight."
What does it matter? There will always be people who judge you and think your business is their business - is it right to condemn them and act like an ass in response because you don't agree with them? Might this stranger have a mental illness? Kettle calling the teapot black.
Alexa could just as easily have been mugged, given a pamphlet to the food bank, been told by the cops to "move along", or given mocking or dirty looks by passers by. If people stare at you, that's your clue you're attracting unnecessary attention. Is that the aim? If so, then you have it.
Most passers by would likely have fussed over the dog - apparently, Alexa upstaged the dog
stones1975: alexa, i wonder if this guy knows your routine well enough to know when you'd be somewhere to give you that phamphlet I'd be changing my morning routine .
Jodbug: I'm a firm believer in folks minding their own business.
The fact of the matter is, it isn't socially acceptable to be racist or to discriminate. But, well done to you for perpetuating an ugly and vicious cycle. Regardless of what Alexa wears, she's still going to be transgendered, and there's still going to be people in the world who have a problem with that simply because they fear things which are different. It's wrong, no matter what way you slice it. These kinds of actions should not be defended.
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Zanjan: What kind of actions? What did the stranger do to Alexa? Freedom of speech?
When I was young, I remember a Jehovah's Witness who stood on a busy corner downtown, handing out pamphlets to everybody. Her name was Alice. Everybody in the city knew Alice..she stood on the same corner every day, shouting to people it was the day of Judgment and those who didn't repent (join her church) would go to hell.
I used to walk by, ignoring her, like everyone else did. The years went by, she never missed a day, rain or shine. I watched her crazy hair turn gray. Had to admire her spirit and perseverance though so, I stopped to have a conversation with her.
Alice truly and honestly believed in her heart of hearts she was doing the Lord's work - she cared about every human, even the nasty, evil ones....she thought if she stood her ground, they would come close enough for the Lord to have mercy on them. She prayed for them all.
One day, about 15 years later, the corner was empty. Nobody ever stood on that corner again. I was sad, really....everyone missed her; the city was never the same without her. In my heart of hearts, I know God had mercy on her; I know she sits with the devoted in the Kingdom of God.
That's what she taught me - to care a lot about others, to persevere, to serve the Lord the best way you know how, to educate...to be devoted to the cause of humanity, no matter how others might see you.
Jodbug: Well, just as I'm assuming the guy's a whackjob, you're assuming he's a sweet, religious man who does nobody any harm by exercising his freedom of speech. It works both ways, dollface.
I'm all for freedom of speech and embracing humanity, which also includes not accepting the blatant and foolhardy actions of others which stifle the very nature of humanity and what it stands for. We'd all do better to treat one another a bit more kindly, just as you would to not judge Alexa for her choice in clothing Have a nice day!
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