why is it so hard to be happy? But so easy to feel down?

121foru_: Im always depressed and angry, have been for the last 6 years. Im 23 now, since about 17 i have had so many problems and mental tension. My mind never takes a break, im always worrying, or anxious or angry about something. I hate the fact that my life has barely changed in the last 6 years. I see people from high school who have changed so much, and they have achieved things and i havnt done anything. im still the same ive always been, in looks, personality and life events. What a waste. I am always replaying past events in my life, and hating the way i look. I so badly wish I werent around. Why does it take so much effort to become happy, but its so easy to feel down. All it takes is remembering one bad memory or someone saying something and then suddenly depression can kick in. Bad times. Sad Times .

Metaverseguy: I can't really relate man. I'm usually pretty happy. Find some good friends. If you don't like the way you look maybe go to a salon and start working out. If you're a woman hang out at a beauty parlor.

Admiration: Because giving up to negativity is always easier than hoping and striving.

Metaverseguy: The only thing that is always negative is an electron.

hitsugaya252: mine state also somehow matches yours. things are terrible. i don't even need a reason to feel down. what i want to advise is, you might have someone with whom you always smile..when you're down try being touch with that someone,it would ease you and inspire you. also don't look at those who has achieved greater height,that would only increse chaos and jealousy.. you're no different, you can make it aswell still have enough time. i know many people knowing their goals in life in the end only... all the best to remove all those buffs, i, myself am trying..good luck

121foru_: Thanks for the replies. Its just strange the way the world has evolved. U look around and so many people are unhappy. People hate their jobs, their relationship, their parents etc etc. People are always stressed about something. Its funny that its so easy to feel down but feeling happy takes real effort and commitment. An earlier comment said its easier to feel down rather than 'strive and hope' to be happy, but why does it taking striving to achieve happiness, whys it so hard. Wonder if God intending this for us or whether we humans have just messed up our lives the way we have the planet.

Admiration: I'm not sure what you think..but I think everything happens for a reason. (Now let's just hope that that reason holds good intentions lol!)
Don't give up. Instead of focusing on all the negative things all the time, try to think of the things you should be grateful for. (It's difficult, but a little practice doesn't hurt.)

Hope things get better for you all~

hitsugaya252: i want to put a question here, "what factors are important in achieving happiness? "

Metaverseguy: ive read some books on happiness. i think its the way you look at the world. here are some things that make me happy:

friends
laughter
success
compassion
music
good food

some other people may like religion, family, etc.

jus rico: F&$* the past live the future you want to have, stop thinking and start doing good deeds for you life, imagine the positive possibility you can have and start reaching for them.

i can relate some, 16 was the age when it got hard but hey man life is not suppose to be easy, that is why when one feels great its because they worked there asses off to get there.

just focus on your self don't think about others

NAV: Do u read? If so come talk to me & I’ll give u the title & author. It has help me to understand my depression & just how to get a handle on your life.

hitsugaya252: i do read Nav. but they are tiresomely long and boring, and none really inspires the inner me. so come on tell me here the exact line that inspired you and relief to depression.