Bullying? Seriously?

RUBY: Bullying? Seriously?

I keep getting emails about people with 'hurt feelings' because they are being 'bullied'. The interesting thing is that the people that message me neither block the so-called 'bullies' or report them using the report link/button...
and if someone blocks another person don't go run and tell them what that person said about them ..you'll be punished as well

We can not ban someone because they "hurt your feelings". We simply can't operate like that. We have our terms of use posted on the bottom of every page - we will only ban people that break those rules and at our own discretion.

This isn't a schoolyard. We are all adults here. Someone upsets you, block them. It is simple as that. If they seriously cross the line, report them and leave it to us.

Let's all do our best to keep life simple and fun

Note to people that pick fights online: Seriously? GROW UP.

Wire Staff

Geoff: Point of order - not everyone here is an adult.

I'm not being facetious about some members and their mental ages, but the rules of this website allow anyone over the age of 13 to join.

RUBY: funny thing is that adults are the ones reporting and being offended by bullies

Geoff: Oh, of that I have no doubt.

Leaahh: I love that you posted this, Ruby.

Leaahh: So many would rather not block but continue to argue and fight then complain to a mod about the other person. It's out of hand. Not sure what the mods say to the complainants, I am sure you all tell them to block and even if they do block (which is rare) you're right in the fact that their friends then tell them everything said bully is saying. Kids man!
I have told my friends not to sit and fight with someone who is "harassing" me. I'm not reading it so let them carry on, it's their problem....not mine.

Leaahh: It's not bullying either, obviously they don't know what real bullying is like. In the real world. Honestly. I don't believe anyone can be "attacked" in a chat room either. If they are too emotional for Wire, they should delete and stay deleted.

xPlasticTreesx: Goodness

lori100: I blame the snowflake liberals with their politically correct propaganda...

GrassHopper: Ruby

Geoff: I think the Trumpflakes are just as sensitive.

RUBY: you're so right Leah
for me the trouble maker is the 1 that goes and tells mostly
i mean if i block someone means i don't want to hear or see what he says
why does another person have to go and tell them?
think you're doing a good thing?
you just make more drama

Leaahh: The shit stirrers

Leaahh: They do it on purpose. They thrive on drama.

Leaahh: Not shifting the blame to those types altogether however. I wouldn't listen to that crap so it's up to the one person to see this other one as total drama and dismiss them.

Leaahh: If you pay attention and I know you do, it's very clear they all love drama (the "friend" who stirs the shit and the one receiving all of the reports of shit talk) even if they claim not to. If they are always involved in it, they want it, because if they didn't, they would put the shit stirrer in their place and tell them that they don't want to hear it. Instead of playing the perpetual victim.

Leaahh: I could so name names lol smh. It's the same usual suspects.

lori100: I don't think Trumpsters are as sensitive...it is liberals who label all others who don't think like they do....

LoisS: I agree Ruby. If someone tries to come at you like a rabid terrier dog. Then why bother with someone like that. Theyre obviously sad as all hell and looking for some drama. When you block someone and people continue to tell you what the person is saying is also annoying. You blocked them for a reason, not to keep hearing the BS go on and on.
This reminds me of another older Blog about bullying.....

luvbunnies: I totally agree, but the ppl that say things like 'go suck ur dads cum' then delete it should be suspended, i mean thats just rude and shouldn't be allowed.

RUBY: we're working on that chicka

luvbunnies: in the olden days of wire too tho, that was suspendable, i mean i do use the block function, cept there is this one doofus that changes his name everyday, and if i don't catch it quick enough, he will pm me and say WERIDO, then block me, he's not the kind of bullying i'm talking about tho, he's harmless, and i do end up blocking him again, no biggie, ....................

Thosny: Chicka's idea is actually something I implemented on my site in the early 90's. If one person blocked another, then neither side saw each other. I called it the "splocker" (spam blocker). It had an automatic expiration but it gave the 2 parties a "timeout" for 4 hours.

Whatever you want to call them (shit starters, spammers, rumor mongers, trouble-makers, etc) that fact is, everyone is here for the purpose to be heard, in one way or another. It could be through pictures (fake or otherwise). Maybe through words. Maybe through their interactions with others. People want to be heard.

What most people suck at is listening. We (I count myself in that lot btw) blabber along but do we have the metal to listen to counter viewpoints? Most of us (myself included at times) do fall off the bandwagon and revert to "childish" and "high schooler" antics.

To be honest, it's normal behavior; whether we like it or not. The Internet is a vast abysmal arena where you can live an anonymous existence. People by nature will subject one another to scrutiny because for the most part, we participate in that fantasy. We have screen names and profiles that show only the best of the best; without giving anyone a true glimpse into what really makes us human.

We become internally jealous and subjective; whether its because of a persons personality or online fame or harsh critical outwardness - we lash out at those that we unwittingly - admire! I know I will get a lot of flack about that statement but the studies around this are rather quite fascinating.

It's normal for people to disagree and argue and be childish but when the computer is off and the the bravado of their Internet life has faded away from their fingertips; I hope people still show compassion to others. To the ones struggling to be heard - in the REAL life.

Wow - I didn't mean to write all this but in the end - if I ever insulted anyone so badly online - that they think I wouldn't assist them if they fell in a mud puddle - then I have failed as a human being.

luvbunnies: I disagree about its normal behavior, not everyone on wire is here to gang up, talk shit, w/e ur saying. And I admit I've been on of those ppl, but NOW whether it be maturing or whatever lol, the people I refer to are ADULTS. Its a shame that they resort to that bottom feeder characteristic, doesn't mean that if one is being attacked for no reason, someone like me can't go in and interfere as far as trying to help the person being attacked for no reason. And I will go and dish it out like the troll is doing, because nobody deserves to be attacked for whatever reason, you don't know them, use COMPASSION ffs, behave like a responsible adult. I don't have an internet personality, I say what I mean, all truthfully, how I feel. Alot of people I know on here are the same.