Is this normal? Why or why not.
Qoot5: We are allowed to text. He slams doors, get loud (at me and other workers), and throws a tantrum at the sight of me talking to a guy on the phone. He hides and look at my phone when I leave it to charge. He even gets emotional when he thinks I am hinting that he does not help me. Like saying "don't act like this is the first ttime I did so-n-so for you" or "I always help you". (Never gave him the impression). And I always do my job effectively.
There is one girl thwre that he has a relationship with that follows him around. She gets away with being on her phone. There are times when he acts like he wants my attention. If she catches on to that, ahe treats me badly. If not, she treata me like everyone else. Otherwise, he gets weird around me. He thinks I ignore him. I do. Especially when he screams my name. If he thinks I see him talking close with her, he walks away from her, and she starts following behind him. I dont care as they think. No one else who sees them care either. Is this normal for him to behave this way? Why could he be acting like this?
Soupbean: Not sure what this is all about. This guy sounds like a complete idiot..! Some people are just not good human beings. Chalk it up to poor child rearing by their parents, experiences they have had in life or lack of social skills and how to relate and communicate with other people.
In my life I try to spend as little time as possible around people like this. Life is too short to try to reason with people like that, chances are they will never change...
Qoot5: One thing's for sure, he keeps making sure that I get what I want as far as shift request. Etc?
I ignore him when he talks to me. I don't reply. He makes a little sound like the sound you make as you try to get something out of your teeth, when I walk off. He is in a secret relationship with another employee. (Gross) I don't like his ways, so he gets a complete silent treatment from me. He's scraping for my attention amd tries to find ways to get a word out of me.
My thing is, why does he not punish me all these months, for ignoring him?
He has a docile demeanor when around me, but yells and act bossy with other workers.
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Soupbean: I guess as long as it’s working out for you ok, and he treats you with dignity and respect.
We are all just raised differently and have life experiences that make us who we are.
I’ve always thought that most of who we are is formed by the time we are 20 years old or so.
I think you’re doing the right things. We aren’t on this world for very long, relatively speaking..
It’s best to spend as little time as possible around people and things that you dislike.
It’s just not good for your soul, and your wellbeing.
Qoot5: Last night while at work, he past by me on his way to his office. Then I heard him yell from his office, "[my name]!!! Come here!!!" I intentionally stook for 2 mins where I was, a few steps from his office, before going to the doorway. Then he began to jibber jab about some goos job I did the day before, that another told him about. And gave me a work anniversary pin. In bewteen his talking, I was walkig away, and as I step off each time, he abruptly stop. Then a step back to listen, he finishes his sentence. Me not even really responding to him and he has a fake face the whole time. Can' t stand him. But he still not acting like angry, upset, or like he going to discipline me, no matter what I do to ignore him, or simply not reply. But I do see him act upset when he thinks I can't see. Just doesnt say it to me. What the hell? Why is he such a kid?
Soupbean: Don’t let tenants that you find undesirable to rent space in your brain...
Put up with them for the positive things they have to offer you, but no more than that..
Always remember.., you are on a higher plain .
Soupbean: Not really sure what exactly is going on here and all the intricacies involved. There may be one or several reasons that you don’t get along with or like this person. And that’s just that.
Keep in mind as a general rule of thumb, most men are always the kids, where the woman is the adult. That’s just usually the way it is from my experience. Sometimes people are put into certain positions in the workforce because of particular traits or strengths they possess. Maybe they are woefully lacking in other areas, but these other areas are deemed or perceived as less important to execute their job effectively. That could possibly be the case.
Maybe just poor people skills.
An example that I can relate to.., my superintendent moved on to a different position in our company a few months ago. He’d been my superintendent at two different companies over the last fifteen plus years. Some people didn’t like him because of his ( at times ) abrasive personality. First impression was, this guy is very cocky and has a huge ego. He’d be the first to admit, both are somewhat true. His knowledge of of the job he had the position of, the concept and understanding of the work that we do was unmatched by anyone I’d worked with in our field. Most people in our company would say the same thing. That’s why our mothership corporate company tried to duplicate him in other people. That’s not working out so well..
Some people just have certain attributes that higher-ups see as critical in executing a particular job, while other areas of their personality are not developed as well.
This may of may not be the case in your situation, just wanted to pass it on.
Keep your chin up and stay positive knowing that you do your job well, you need to impress yourself firstly and most importantly...