Angry, lost, like a caged tiger pacing back and forth in its Pandemic cage just waiting for it to open!
florecitacol: Anna, for I say to you the now is I am coming on you. day 14. you do wantint for the informacion to we flyings? and fone telefono. Yes?
Like many of you, I chat here as a release away from how frustrated I get living in the current covid restrictions. Prior to coming to Wire Club, I chatted at E-Chat. LUCY SWEET was a friend of mine at E-Chat and was also very persistent with talking me into joining Wire Club. I miss Lucy! For a few months, I chatted at both sites and then on a long weekend, the E-Chat Server crashed, so I opened EChat Lesbian Lovelies, making it easier for my E-chatters to fund us here. Annabella was E-Chat’s first host (besides me), followed by Lauren and Helen.
I had a very diverse group of E-Chat friends in both age and countries, so we decided to be the only room to stay open and busy 24 hour, 7 days a week. I truly enjoyed meeting girls from Wire Club, but most of all, I loved watching my friends from Echat making friends with Wire Club girls. I even wrote a blog about it named E-Chat Meets Wire Club. Below is a passage from that blog :
“Wireclub is full of wonderful girls, as such I encouraged my friends from E-chat to wander to other rooms to visit and will continue to do so. Our door is always open to you all and one day, I hope that all the rooms here inside our lesbian community opens their doors to all as well. Life is too short to exclude ourselves from others due to personal animosities. Let’s all have a fun 2020. Love and kisses, **Anna1996**!”
Either I was gullible, naïve to the bone, or I truly believed that I could keep them all happy and for about 8 months it worked. Without going into too much detail, 4 girls changed all that one day, sitting in a conference room with a wire mod till they has convinced that I was the worst bully Wire-Monster in history. I had no clue any of that was going on, but a friend of mine stumbled into that Conference Room, and she screenshot a lot of what those 4 were saying about me. If it wasn't for that, I would have never known., maybe that would have been better, as I was truly horrified at the lies being told to that wire-mod about me. I sent him a message, asking him If I was on trial, I haven't received any notice.
His reply was an Invite to that room, where I made the mistake of going in angry. They all left as I arrived, and I said, just so you know, everything I am reading that they claim I did or am, is a lie, I cant even keep up with my single and only account, l so their claim that I had at least 5 other accounts here, was also a lie. As soon as I hit enter, I was kicked from that room then and when I tried to reach out to him in messages I realized that I was chat suspended.
Some set of holidays for the Echatters, our room was wire-deleted on Christmas Eve, a week later I was chat suspended, then enhanced to total mute. Didn't have a clue that it would be well into February before i said my next word in wire club. I remained angry for most of my suspension, then it just all cleared up for me , became so obvious that my anger is what they wanted. So in lieu of confronting them, I put them all on block . And frankly, I became a happier chatter because of it too.
Regarding grudges, of the 4, one of them I never liked and any respect I once had was long gone. The 2nd of the fatal foursome was a girl I seen every day before the room split, but seldom talked with. The last two hurt e the most. I had been tight with both of them in the past. I have spent time speaking to both of them, not in anger, but truly with the intention of knowing what I may have done to deserve all that. Although they both have admitted that the Conference Room was planned and full of lies, only one of them apologized for it and responded with my acceptance as well as my own apology for partaking in arguments. As close as I was with her before all this, I am pleased to say that we talk every day, share the same friends and rooms and our relationship has never been better. The other will never admit any wrong-doing, long story there. That’s her choice not mine, I put in as much effort as I could to repair what was done, but she wants no part of it.
I am bringing all this up for a reason. Over the past month, there has been several incidents in our room which caused some of the hosts there to unhost themselves and leave. Now some of them did it alone, for whatever their reasons were, but others insisted that their friends did it too, and that upsetting to me. Yes, our room owner can be quirky at times, but in reality she isn’t there much. She leaves the daily responsibilities to her main hosts. While that makes some mad, I prefer it to be that way. She wrongfully kicked a regular well-liked chatter one night and half the room left angry, including me. I was hosted in a new room and we even talked about making a go of it. I kept that room busy all night, planning to speak to the new owner in more detail the next morning.
The next morning came fast, and right behind the new owner came one of the girls that i need to remain separated from. Maybe I should have spoken to the new owner first, but I chose to give this person the same treatment I get from her. I politely gave her the choice of leaving on her own accord, or I would kick her. The new owner and I discussed this, where I was told that she know more than I think she does, and that I should stop holding a grudge against that person. I found that to be a total double standard, as the old owner came into the room specifically to apologize and to promise us all that she will trust her hosts from now on to do all the kicking, as she isn't there as much as we are. But instead of being heard, the old owner was kicked on site. I told the new owner, its okay for you to hold a grudge against the old owner for reasons far more petty than the reasons I did what I did that morning. I told her that I respectfully agree to disagree , I still like her as a friend, but I will unhost in her room and return to the old one. I ended by wishing her luck, told her that I will drop into say hello also, and I hoped we could remain friends still. She said sure, then unfriending me right after.
I still hold no ill feelings for her, even as the day went on and I watched her group disappear one at a time from the friends and rooms tab, obliviously removing me as friends. All but one did. Again, no hard feelings, until someone i was removed by someone i was really close to, that also came over from E-Chat. Now that's where I draw the line between grudges and bullying. In all my disputes with those four, I never once even thought about asking any mutual friend to make a choice between us, even after they did. I don’t do that to any friend, EVER, as a true friend would never do. I have discussed even with them, but only when they asked.
When those four did all they did to get our old Echat room deleted they also hurt 100’s of regulars that loved that room too, not just me. One of those four gets it now , I get it now also. Maybe Echat was deleted and I was muted for nearly 40 days for all the wrong reasons, but in reality, a good dose of humility was exactly what i needed. It changed me, and I am better for it now.
I dont hold those grudges for what they did. In fact I thank them now for the results. But I can never trust them again, and that’s a grudge – worthy reason.
As far as the new room owner, I doubt very much you will hear any of this, but I truly hope you do. Also I am only assuming that you are asking or making it known to her that you prefer to be friends with girls that either remove me or with those that never had, me listed to begin with. If you really care for your friends, you would never put them in that position. I hope that she reads this and changes her mind, she needs to learn how to stand up for herself and make her own decisions., a right we all should hold in high regard.
In closing, there is enough division in this world, especially in america. Wire Club is supposed to be fun, lets not create anymore division here, Instead , lets find ways to come together, haha, your room or mine? purely plutonic of course, haha!! Love you all! Anna