Oh what to sayyyy.. Well, I'm a football Mom, a lacrosse Mom, a soccer Mom, a rugby Mom, a bunny agility Mom, a lego robotics Mom (and coach), a band parent Mom, definitely an equestrian Mom.... oh I have kids!
Also I love to play guitar.....
Clean chat only..k?? I love to chat, make connections, develop genuine friendships... so plz, I beg ya, no asking me to sext or get naughty... Thanks!
djmfunguy0: Hello Bettyest how you been doing I am in Maine USA Northeast USA I am retired. Married, Submissive to my wife and her friends I am open minded to what life has to offer us. Hope to hear from you soon.
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Bettyest: Hi. Wow. I just noticed that pic is like a reflection.. It must have been some setting on my phone that did that....because I'm right-handed.. (Two of my children are lefties though..I actually bought kid # 2 a left handed banjo when he was in middle school... I sooo wish I had gotten him a regular one because I found out that I cannot play left handed anything ..lol.)
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dukekeagan: Greetings Betty. Thanks for becoming my friend. How many kinders do you have? I think I read you have some grown and gone while still having a couple of the youngers using the mommataxi.
I have two, Son and daughter. Both grown. Daughter has five kids of her own. Sadly, they have always lived a long way away so I dont get to be a grandpa. My son is another story all together. Him, his girlfriend and the girlfriends two daughters live close. His girl friend doesn't like me and the feeling is mutual.
So, thats the short story. You have a grand day today. Remember to do fun things twice. Its kind of a rule.
Bettyest: Hi Great rule!
..I have five kids. Three grown now and two still in high school. I'm not really looking forward to "empty nesting"...but...I'll be proud to see them being self sufficient and pursuing adulthood with the gusto that young adults have.
I have no grandchildren yet. My second son married a wonderful gal this last December though...I'll love to being a grandma if the time ever comes.
I hope you and your son's gf can find something to appreciate in each other. You both love your son, and your son loves both of you is a good starting point?? I'm sure there's much more to it that caused you not to like her though ::: sigh::::
Anyway, I thought I'd respond back. Have a wonderful evening!!!
dukekeagan: Fear is an interesting emotion. It is a necessary one as well. Fear keeps you on your toes and alert to whats around you. It makes it so you can jump into a fight or flee mod almost instantly. When the proverbial poodoo hits the fan, fear tells you, you are still alive. Fear is your friend.
This is a good post. You have a pretty good outlook on life. Sounds like you taught your grown kids well. Seeing your kids grow and succeed or fail is a pivotal event in the life of a parent.
My daughter married a selfish fellow who puts his needs and wants before his family. He's a good provider and take his share of the responsibility with the kids. My daughter has great talents in many things. Several times I have watched her move up in whatever task she is doing at the moment. But when she gets close to the top, she quits and goes to do something else. Frustrating to me.
My son on the other hand, has never committed to anything in his life. Somewhere along the line I failed him. He's thirty-six now. Last year he lost his sight and an eye because he never took care of his diabetes. His kidneys are shot for the same reason. He started dialysis this week. There's a whole long story behind all this, but the short of it is...I'm very sad I couldn't reach him.
Oh oh...I got to rambling. I do that. Its the being old with a busted brain I think.
Bettyest: With kids, we have to remember they have free will. I am very distressed about my oldest, my 27 yr old...Maybe I failed him, maybe he failed himself..Either way, I feel guilty that I wasn't sophisticated enough to stop the spiral that drug addiction causes an addict, and his family.... Sure, he was raised the same, but each kid is different and has different needs. Maybe if I hadn't worked nights during his middle school years, leaving him in care of their heavily drinking father, and maybe if I hadn't stayed married to the kids'father for so many years exposing them to such chaos. Yes, the kids were raised the same, but then again they weren't. I quit working nights when I found out their dad was out drinking, and leaving our oldest kid aged 12 to care for four younger siblings..plus any extra curricular activities ceased bcs he wasn't taking them. I resumed taking them once I was back to working days, but ya gotta get your kids into things, sports, music, theater, scouts - anything where they can be around like minded peers with goals before high school.... So yes, I feel like I did not do right by my oldest. When we found out he was using drugs, he was 19 ... We got him into rehab through his dad's insurance..but he was an adult and walked away at will. He's 27 now. I love him dearly but he cannot live with me, nor will I give him money..Everytime I have, he will do great for awhile, then his addiction will rear its ugly head and the kids and I are put into a crises. That only makes his siblings abhor him and he feel horrible when he's in his right mindset. ..so yes, it might be raining out, but he can't stay here now...and yes, it breaks my heart to not let him in.
I tell him contantly that I love him, and believe in him ( via Facebook messenger). I really do. He needs the right help though...and I'm not it..
He has a horrific life long problem that he needs to make a life commitment to keep on track. If he needs help, he needs to contact the experts - such as City Central Concern, Salvation Army, or other drug rehabilitation places. I'll gladly go to any counseling, or whatever for him...
So yeah..Everyone has struggles and doubts. We are plagued by what ifs, could haves and should haves.....We do the best we can with what we have. The awesome thing is we are always learning via experience..plus we can do research and learn from others experiences...The most important thing is no matter what paths our kids choose, we love them, and we love them and ourselves enough to set boundaries.