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Vixyyy
Vixyyy: So true
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Beguilment
Beguilment: Very true
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blueyesKathi
blueyesKathi: Amen
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pepsigal02
pepsigal02: Absolutely true!
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sxysftpurrs
sxysftpurrs: You make a valid point,but sometimes it difficult to trust when one has been burnt by people
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TastyLittleNymph
TastyLittleNymph: The problem I have is people think trust should just automatically be given. Yet to me....Trust is earned, not simply given!
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TinkerMouse
TinkerMouse in reply to TastyLittleNymph: I think that's true to a point, but I think you have to start out with a basis of at leasy a little trust and respect for personal space, since when you start a relationship neither of you have had a chance to earn anything yet. Since trust given should equal trust received...if neither of you are willing to give a little, you won't have a chance to build much of anything
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TastyLittleNymph
TastyLittleNymph: Trust is built over time. From spending time with a person. From watching their actions, to see if they match their words. From seeing if they do respect you and your personal boundaries. If the person is honest in their intentions, then trust begins to grow. Yet I notice these days, people expect Trust....Without actually proving they are trust worthy!
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TinkerMouse
TinkerMouse in reply to TastyLittleNymph: I agree with you in the sense that a true, lasting trust and bond requires time (or a significant stressor like a tragedy) to form. But I still think you have to start somewhere. I still think you have to extend yourself in the first place to even begin building actual trust. There is going to be risk involved.
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TastyLittleNymph
TastyLittleNymph: I'm simply speaking from my own experiences. I've also found Significant stressors..such as Tragedy...Tend to destroy bonds...rather than strengthen them..Again..My own personal experience.Not saying that is the outcome for everyone. In some families yes...tragedy can strengthen bonds, Yet I also know in some families...It destroys them! Yes you have to extend yourself to some extent..to learn about the other person, in order to build trust. Yet trust isn't born over night! I'm not saying it's not possible to build trust...but i will say it's impossible to place it in someone you are just meeting! We as Parent's...don't just hire anyone off the street to care for our child..Without taking proper steps before hand...to vet them...To have back ground checks performed. If we choose a Daycare...we research the day care centers...to see if they have ever had any violations reported against them. We take steps to be sure our child will be safe...Out of our care! I've simply learned ..That everyone who is in your corner...isn't necessarily...there for you! Doesn't necessarily...Have your best interest at heart! I've learned words can be peppered with BS, While actions...Never lie! I'm not advocating for people to never trust other people again...Simply stating be careful who you place your trust in...Because not everyone want's to see you thrive!!!
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TinkerMouse
TinkerMouse in reply to TastyLittleNymph: sounds like knowledge hard earned for you
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