E relationshipsWell.....where do I begin really??!!
I think the best thing would be to start with a disclaimer. This is JUST my HUMBLE OPINION PPL.....and YES some of what is contained herein I include myself in...so don't get all pissy on me!!
Ok ...now then. This seems to be a common theme on the Internet. More and more ppl are meeting, chatting with, and finally hooking up IRL (In real life) with someone that they have met online. Now let me start by saying.....this is where the world is going I suppose...and we have to change with it. The internet is quickly and more forcefully becoming the new dating medium of the future...if it isn't already. There are hundreds, if not thousands of "actual" dating sites out there, and I'm not talking about Adult friend finder either pervs! There are actual honest to goodness sites that match you up with someone depending on certain compatibility standards. These all seem well and good, I will be the first one to agree that most of them at least SEEM to have good intentions. However what road does this lead us down? What will "meeting" someone and "dating" someone become in 5 yrs....in 10 yrs....20? Will we dispense with the human contact altogether...I mean we're pretty much there now. Why go out on a "date" when you can get basically the same thing over the computer, and not have to spend anymore money save for your monthly connection fee. I think it's a sad state of affairs we're heading towards. A great "disconnection" , if you will, and we all wonder why people are more depressed now than ever in human history. We seal ourselves off from human contact and replace it with , words on a screen, and colorful pixels, in the hopes that the person on the other end Isn't a complete and utter psycho!! Personally .....I prefer the old fashioned way of meeting someone.....ACTUALLY GOING OUTSIDE AND MEETING SOMEONE!! Now ...that being said...and Internet dating sites being what they are....yes....there are good and bad sides to it...and of course everyone will have a differing opinion. However....the thing that bothers me the most is right here on wire, well ANY chatroom or social networking program to be precise. The first and foremost thing everyone needs to realize in a chatroom......YOU HAVE NO Fwx@$&^ IDEA WHO YOU MAY BE CHATTING WITH!!! .....Let me say that again....YOU HAVE NOOOOO IDEA WHO YOU MAY BE CHATTING WITH!!! The dating sites...well, the recognized, bonded, official ones anyways...have MANY checks and balances to ensure a NON PSYCHO encounter, if two parties decide to meet. However, chat programs and social networking sites, such as wire...HAVE NO SUCH SAFEGUARDS!! That's why it blows my mind when I see all these users on here....going/moving to meet other users they don't even know!!! It's craziness ....it's foolish and reckless...you have no idea who this person is...or what they are about...and you're just off to go meet them???!!! ARE YOU ON C%#&z??!! I know exactly what you are all thinking....."But CRASH...I know this person...I've talked to them for over a year....not just on wire either". Remember Majalie Cajuste, the girl that was lured by an internet nut from myspace, and killed? You know how long they talked before that happened? A YEAR AND A HALF...yes that's right. When it comes to the internet time is relative...and doesn't really mean too much. Don't get me wrong....I know you can meet bad people offline to...however..the internet just makes it THAT much easier. It's a stalker/rapists/criminals dream come true. Especially when dealing with Foolish Ignorant people, that have E bfs and E gfs...and are IN E LOVE...LMFAO...please...you people aren't THAT stupid are you?!! Either stupid or EXTREMELY desperate for a relationship, that you would throw caution directly out the window. I'm sure if you ran the numbers on internet "meetings" from a chat/social site it would go something like this.......
#of ppl then met up and nothing happened: 80%
#of ppl that met up and sparks flew and the whole 9: 18%
#of ppl that met up and something tragic happened: 2%
Yes ...that is not a big percentage, however it's STILL a percentage!! And that's just A GUESS...it could be higher!! Basically the point to all my ramblings is, it just IRKs me when people on chat sites and SN sites get it in their head to go meet someone, that all they really know about them ...is WHAT THAT PERSON HAS TOLD THEM!! Especially if you're flying overseas...I mean ..WOW...first thing you do when you land....buy a gun!! All that psycho shit aside...meeting someone from a chat site seems pointless in the long run ANYWAYS...because even if they are telling you the truth about themselves....you still don't know THEM. You know an Idealized version of them, and to say..omg we are sooo in love, and we're gonna meet up and move in together is just plain retarded!! To say that about someone you have NEVER met is totally ridiculous and just makes you look stupid. Talking and getting to "know" someone in a chat room is one thing....doing that in REAL LIFE is COMPLETELY different!! I guess some people seem to think they are the same however!! *sigh* Soooo, yeah...well I suppose I'm done rambling for now kiddos...just my opinions as I said in the disclaimer. But seriously guys....try disconnecting for a bit, getting out in the REAL world...and see if you can meet someone that you can Actually look in the eyes...and oh I dunno...TOUCH WITH YOUR HANDS!!
Person: I'd never be able to take an e-thing seriously because I agree that what you know about the other person would be an idealised version. Plus, I think a physical relationship is important. Not physical as in se.x, but being able to hug and all that good stuff.
мιѕѕ_яєвєℓ: Did you know that when Rod and Braden created wire it was originally advertised as a dating site?
Explains a lot of crap if you think about it....
Anyways... there are certain precautions that people can take when making arrangements to meet someone. Like bringing a friend with them and meeting in a public place. But that is for whether it is as a friendship or more. I will say... I have met Amber no problems there. I don't agree that you should full out move across the country to be with someone and move in with them. That is just nuts... anyways I could rant about this topic... but unlike you I feel lazy so I am done for right now... I will probably catch you later and talk to you about it lol
Krooked_Anti_Hero: Im gonna guess in the future with this shit is gonna involve a supercomputer that matches up ppl forcefully and makes them have kids to fill the world up with more mouths to keep the chain of TERROR going on for the next THOUSANDS OF YEARS!!! Or not idk really....
Dawn: Right. You have a point. But then again. Many people who do meet friends online and talk there instead are people who don't have friends in real and need someone to talk to. If there were no computers they would still be lonely an depressed. I can't talk about someone who has friends in life and now is online and is all depressed and shite, but if you're like me, all your friends live very far away from you, then just talkin online is a good substitute
AngelOfMisery: I wish someone would have the PSYCHO talk with all f the PlentyOfFish users LOL... That place is FULL of them.
AngelOfMisery: FYI Candy, My brother met his past three girlfriends there, and this isn't the time or place, mind your own business.
IDevourSouls_: It's a dating site, newb. I've never been on it, but I always thought it was funny because of that saying "there's plenty of fish in the sea."