Jakk has Mojo: I never fail to find entertainment here. So tonight, I was bored, and when I'm bored, somehow, someway, I usually do something that stirs shit up Not on purpose, mind you Anyway...I saw dudes complaining about being booted from the lesbian rooms just for being male (well, yea lol) so I made a tongue-in-cheek "lesbian" room called Jakk's Lesbian Cafe'. Complete with a pic of a chatter sipping a hot beverage! Now, first, I didn't realize there was already a "Jane's Lesbian Cafe'" room name (oops) until a friend told me...and second, the chatter whose pic I put up for 'my' lesbian room was just booted from a lesbian room last night (oops). Apparently this riled up the WireClub lesbian community. I thought we had drama and bullying just with douches and catfish in the "straight" rooms, but holy shit, these lesbian women (and some dudes pretending to be, no doubt) take drama to a whole new level. I actually had some conversations with some lesbians/bi women and the bullying, harassing, and outright nastiness that goes on in those rooms (from what I'm told, keep in mind this is all third party information) was mind blowing. I was told my name was brought up and trashed for creating the room...the description basically says I'm extending an olive branch to come in my lesbian room to make up for all the males booted from theirs I'll only call out one chatter who gave me shit (happycara) who PMed and said "You're so full of shit". Yea, it's called humor I wish more people had a sense of humor here, it might lighten some people's days and give most a smile or two which a lot need after a shitty day or tough time they are going through. So now, I was going to delete the room since it was a joke, but I was asked by more than a few lesbians to keep it open....I can't make this shit up! So for all the lesbian and bi women on my list, (if you haven't already deleted me )…give me your thoughts?
Minnie__: Happycara pretended to be a friend I could trust about 2 months ago and then went legit psycho on me after she claimed my friends were “bullies” guess even the nut cases need a place to chat .
Jakk has Mojo: lol, sorry, I didn't mean to exclude the straight from commenting I'm an equal opportunity discussioner (I just made that word up ) so please, anyone comment lol
d a k e: LESBI-honest. Some of the nice lesbians are looking for a new place to hang out, we all hear how mean they can be in there. So lend them a hand.... Cuz, yano
sarah_spirit: I think that its like everywhere here .. I think its sad when anyone is excluded from any room because they are not a part of that community .. surely the whole point about chat rooms is we get to enjoy each others company .. get to meet people from all over .. who share certain interests .. find things out about each other and laugh together.. support each other .. and sometimes I go in rooms that i'm interested in but not a part of that community .. Seems silly that I couldn't go in a France room because I'm not french .. and like with the Christian rooms .. some make me welcome and will chat happily with me ..others I get booted from because I am not part of their community .. I have friends who are from ll over the world who have lots of different interests .. the same rule goes for all of them .. you might not agree with some of my friends lifestyle choices .. but dont disrespect them .. Now on the other hand I do understand the shit some of them go through .. I have popped into the lesbian room to chat to a friend .. and witnessed first hand assholes who go in there to cause trouble and wind them up and downright pervy behavior .. some just come in to cause trouble .. and after a while it can get annoying .. so it can be hard to find a balance between a safe space to be yourself .. with others who are like you .. a space where you can be yourself .. and relax .. so I think some of the restrictions are there to try and avoid some of that .. On the other hand some people need to be a bit more tolerant to others .. I've also been there when people were just having a bit of fun and the reaction they got was totally over the top .. But I think the same goes for all rooms .. assholes and pervs are universal .. Again I think the word there is balance ..
SouxieQ: If I was a lesbian in a lesbian chat room, I would not go to jakks lesbian cafe,I'd think of it as just another pervy creep trying to get his jollies, and if not come out making fun of the lesbian culture and attitude. You cant appropriate the lesbian gender, why not just start a gay cafe for men.
Sassinator: I like to look at beautiful woman and Ive kissed a girl or two and I liked it . I dont consider myself bi-sexual I think that I am attracted to and love people for who they are not what they are. I prefer the company of men though because no matter what most women are biatches and theres no changing that. I myself find humour in everything but take into consideration that most lesbian women have had to deal with not being taken seriously by men and a lot of them have been abused in a verbal and/or sexual manner by a man at some point. Then consider that most gay men dont ever have to deal with the same form of abuse from women ( they usually cop it from men) and therefore they tolerate women and befriend women and you may understand why lesbian women become intolerant towards men. I think your room is great except for the lack of coffee and if it remains open I will be back. We all should be free to express ourselves without prejudice but we also need to learn to laugh and not take everything so seriously.
EIeonora: Isnt a lesbian, however, I do have friends who are, and I sometimes visit those rooms to talk with them. As far as the drama, I have no idea whats going on, which is more than likely a good thing for me, since I cant stand drama.
JEEZUS: I went into your room,cuz jakk youre generally funny, and upon reading the room description was equally amused...but heres where it went sideways...very much like this thread of responses..which has instead of answering the initial question become a platform to make ugly comments and orientation based stereotypes...humour is great...some of the greatest commedians out there have offended one group or another...but comedy and humour can also be a thin surface masking a persons ignorance...think racist jokes..same goes for ignorant opinions...not everyone needs to hear or read them...if youre not actually adding something helpful to the discussion why detract from it by being childish and petulant about it ..there are countless mixed gender and orientation rooms...some pervy some not...some utter dumpster fires...so when you do create a room even in jest that is supposed to be a more inclusive space for lesbian and non lesbians alike but have ...people lesbian shaming or feeling it necessary to go ew no no no im super straight...it loses its funny and becomes yet another shitty room where people feel the need to cut people down rather than build them up
Ladylove1987: People do need more of a sense of humor on here I get on here as a mental vacation to laugh and make others laugh. That’s what this place should be
EmmEffinPrincess: I feel I am uniquely qualified to comment here. I am a female, married to a female. I met my wife on AOL in a female 4 female chat almost 20 years ago. When I came to Wire I said to myself, "self, I wonder what the lesbian rooms are like here" well let me fucking tell you. I went in, there were 20 or so names in the room. Only 2 others were actually talking. The topic ended up being various Netflix shows. Pretty normal chat. Room owner comes back. "Who allowed the trolls to come in" and boots out the two people who were talking, then informed me that they were regs and they know that you don't just start up a conversation with someone new. First you have to administer The Test. I say wtf is The Test. The lady said if I don't know what The Test is, I must be a fake and a man. I kindly explained only a fucking moron would think an account with over 100 pics of the same person was owned by not that person, told her I found her to be a cunt, and left, to try another room. I went to 4 different lesbian rooms. All full of cliche cunts
Izzie: The room was nice, there was no malice intended. We just had a nice chat and everyone was welcomed to join. And those who did were treated like humans. Not by their sexual preferences. Stop labeling yourselves and each other. Just chat.
CuteAsButtons__: We all get along and just be happy and enjoy it out here would that all the bullies and drama. I would rather smile and be happy and have a good chat then a bunch of BS any day so we'll said about we need more laughter out here
alba_latte: jakk, when i saw that room, i chuckled. i knew exactly why you created it. but wire is such a microcosm of society. inflated entitlement and exaggerated 'offenses' and those ppl are everywhere. dont let them curb your humor or nature. they need to chill tf out and try laughing. its therapeutic and decreases those ugly lines between their brows.
What_the_FAWKY_FAWK: I dated a woman for 6 yrs. Never hated men at all. Did I hate the fact that they thought all lesbians wanted a threesome? Fawk yess I did lol....but anyone can be a little shit gay or straight. Just be fucken nice to one another and don't be a shady as fuck bitch or you will get the same treatment.
QUEEN DGAF69: my thought on HC one minute she mad at me for dumb bs and now she tries to be nice im like woah not having it... im done wit that child hc... so i wonder when will she ever be an adult not a child and think she better than others? this whole thing is more like man bashing rooms except for jakk room !!!
Jakk has Mojo: I appreciate all the responses....but I feel obligated to say a couple of things...I have ZERO issue with anyone's sexuality, what they are, claim to be, identify as, etc etc. You're a human first, act like one, you'll be treated as such. I can sympathize with trolls going in the lesbian rooms, I for one, don't really expect to go sit in a lesbian room and NOT be booted. It's like the Boy Scouts. Boy is in it for a reason....stay in your lane, they also have Girl Scouts for those that just want to rock the boat and demand to be included in a group. The drama was basic human bullshit, not "just because" they are lesbian. It came to me...I didn't go in the rooms and link my room, I didn't post my room to my feed and make a big deal of it, I didn't ask any of my female friends to go recruit chatters...it was actually a fun room, no douches, and lots of laughs. I didn't see any one person bash anyone for 'being' a lesbian, but or how they acted as a 'person'. I feel I'm a champion now for the good lesbians I wonder if I can be an honorary one? And Emm...get with me, I'll give you a test
ircurts: I may not be lesbian enough... I do appreciate the room's concept and love it. I really do think we all need to learn to get along. I get that many men have bounday issues and it is really disrespectful. I hope you keep the room jakk.
Luviissa: Hello everyone and Hello Jakk. I am a friend of Jakk's and have been since I had the pleasure of meeting him in his Adult room. He calls me Hobbit because I am wee and he is Orc Boy . I noticed Jen's post about her and a friend chatting and laughing about the room; I was that friend. I am actually a bisexual woman and was one of the first people into the room along with Zoe and Ruby. It was fun and a giggle and knowing Jakk I can see that under the tongue in cheek element, there was a serious msg.
I am also a host in one of the Lesbian rooms, currently the busiest one and so I can see the other side of the equation. I regularly spend time in mixed rooms here on Wire and anyone who has seen me in rooms knows that I am happy to chat to anyone regardless of their gender. But I am bisexual and am aware that there are members of the Lesbian community who do not choose to associate with men. To this end ,I have even had a few negative comments because I am bi and to quote one msg "playing at being a lesbian".
The room I host in isn't solely a Lesbian room, it is for any woman and the owner was hoping to create on Wire a small safe space where women could go as a small sanctuary from some of the harassment that women sometimes receive on here.In an ideal world every room could be inclusive of everyone but we do not live in an ideal world as some of the comments on here such as for example Whatamidoin's show. There will always be eejits and bigots and the fact that there are rooms with restrictive entry is partly down to people like that. The majority as always are penalised by the actions of a small minority so decent blokes who would be an asset to a room are denied entry as a matter of policy.
Anyway, keep being nice to each other, Lulu the blonde gobby Hobbit
Jakk has Mojo in reply to kefferjody1: yes keffer, I'm a bully Because I made a room for humor, and they got pissed...that's how bullying works nowadays
It's not your fault that you're out of the loop
They can't think straight now.
So lend them a hand....
Cuz, yano
Seems silly that I couldn't go in a France room because I'm not french .. and like with the Christian rooms .. some make me welcome and will chat happily with me ..others I get booted from because I am not part of their community ..
I have friends who are from ll over the world who have lots of different interests .. the same rule goes for all of them .. you might not agree with some of my friends lifestyle choices .. but dont disrespect them ..
Now on the other hand I do understand the shit some of them go through .. I have popped into the lesbian room to chat to a friend .. and witnessed first hand assholes who go in there to cause trouble and wind them up and downright pervy behavior .. some just come in to cause trouble .. and after a while it can get annoying .. so it can be hard to find a balance between a safe space to be yourself .. with others who are like you .. a space where you can be yourself .. and relax .. so I think some of the restrictions are there to try and avoid some of that ..
On the other hand some people need to be a bit more tolerant to others .. I've also been there when people were just having a bit of fun and the reaction they got was totally over the top ..
But I think the same goes for all rooms .. assholes and pervs are universal ..
Again I think the word there is balance ..
..there are countless mixed gender and orientation rooms...some pervy some not...some utter dumpster fires...so when you do create a room even in jest that is supposed to be a more inclusive space for lesbian and non lesbians alike but have ...people lesbian shaming or feeling it necessary to go ew no no no im super straight...it loses its funny and becomes yet another shitty room where people feel the need to cut people down rather than build them up
Does my opinion count?
I noticed Jen's post about her and a friend chatting and laughing about the room; I was that friend.
I am actually a bisexual woman and was one of the first people into the room along with Zoe and Ruby. It was fun and a giggle and knowing Jakk I can see that under the tongue in cheek element, there was a serious msg.
I am also a host in one of the Lesbian rooms, currently the busiest one and so I can see the other side of the equation. I regularly spend time in mixed rooms here on Wire and anyone who has seen me in rooms knows that I am happy to chat to anyone regardless of their gender. But I am bisexual and am aware that there are members of the Lesbian community who do not choose to associate with men. To this end ,I have even had a few negative comments because I am bi and to quote one msg "playing at being a lesbian".
The room I host in isn't solely a Lesbian room, it is for any woman and the owner was hoping to create on Wire a small safe space where women could go as a small sanctuary from some of the harassment that women sometimes receive on here.In an ideal world every room could be inclusive of everyone but we do not live in an ideal world as some of the comments on here such as for example Whatamidoin's show. There will always be eejits and bigots and the fact that there are rooms with restrictive entry is partly down to people like that.
The majority as always are penalised by the actions of a small minority so decent blokes who would be an asset to a room are denied entry as a matter of policy.
Anyway, keep being nice to each other,
Lulu the blonde gobby Hobbit