julesr Offline

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sad day

Well, today was supposed to be the day I put up my Christmas decs - yes it is early, but I thought , ‘ what the hell, it’s been a tough year, why not brighten things up a bit” So a slow breakfast after a lay in was planned, ready to start about 10.30am….

Of course, things never go to plan do they., and soon after 10am my eldest daughter told me she had been speaking to Halcyi, the 16 year old daughter of a workmate of mine (Jacki) who has been off work due to illness since June. I have known Jackie about 10 years, a wonderful lady, wicked sense of humour and never short of a smile.
The reason Halcyi had called was to tell the news that yesterday evening her mother (my friend Jacki) sadly passed away. She was 45, I knew she had cancer and I knew the time was not far away, but still it hit me like a brick.
I cried for her, then I cried even more for Halcyi, 16 years old and now lost her mother.. Sometimes you cannot put your feelings into the words that are needed.

So, to be honest, my world stopped for a while. I could not put up decorations - how can you after that news. Instead myself and my oldest daughter (my youngest stays with her father at weekends) went on one of the walks that me and Jackie had enjoyed so many times up till a few months ago, along a riverside and almost complete isolation - somehow today it seemed even quieter.

Well, thats my first blog post.. Not the happiest of starts but, well, it’s real everyday life. Ups and downs, triumphs and failures, good and bad news.

Next post will follow soon as I have another story to tell…. Thanks for reading. x
SidAgain
SidAgain: Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.
Cancer is the grimmest of reapers, it has no regard for anyone or anything.
Unfortunately in many cases by the time the condition is known it is too late to do anything about it.
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UKJess
UKJess: Really sorry to hear your news jules, I too bad a sad day yesterday with the loss of my lovely nan. My thoughts and love to go you and everyone in jacki's life. xxx
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julesr
julesr: Big hug for you Jess.
Sometimes it seems we get a reality kick, when we sit back and are forced to see what really are the important things in life, and probably more telling, what the unimportant things are - and count our blessings for enjoying the moments which we take for granted. xxx
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SidAgain
SidAgain: So true Jules, except nowadays I take nothing for granted - I think you know why,
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lauraluvv
lauraluvv: I'm so sorry for your friends passing - Gone too soon but never forgotten. I'm feeling the pain from this, wish Jackie could have made it to christmas for her daughter. I guess death has no time on its watch. Sending big hugs to you & jackies family, yes she's gone but her soul lives on. She'll never stop smiling, and being the joyful soul she were when she were physically here.
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