Why do we respond the way we do? Do we let others control how we feel?...

Going to start off giving two links:

"6 Steps to Controlling Your Emotions" -
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/controlling-your-emotions_b_3654326.html

"Real Love in Marriage: The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever"
- https://books.google.com/books?id=M1RydbCMDBoC

Sometimes we take other people’s pain as an attack onto ourselves. Meaning, someone might be having a bad day and they don't respond to us like they normally do or should. When this happens we become hurt and sometimes lash back. Then the person thinks we are attacking them because they did not even know they were attacking us. Thus, starting a very bad circle.

Sometimes people are really joking with us and trying to be friendly. However, their way of joking might not feel like a joke to us. This could be because that person is from a different country and we just don't understand each other like people from our own town. Or, it could be, because we are upset today and do not see that the person is really just trying to have fun with us.


From the book:

“Changing Our Feelings About Other People with a Knowledge of Getting and Protecting Behaviors:

Imagine that you and I are in the Bahamas, enjoying a pleasant lunch, a warm tropical breeze, and the soothing music of a live band as we set together by the side of a pool. We’re having a perfect day, but then someone in the pool starts splashing you---Fist on your shoes, then higher up on your pants. You can’t see who it is because there’s a deck chair between you and the person in the pool. At first you ignore it, but eventually you begin to get wet and irritated, and finally you get up from your char to say something to this idiot who’s being so thoughtless. As you stand up, however, to look over the chair that’s in your way, you see that the man splashing you is drowning. He’s only splashing you because he’s thrashing and kicking in the water to keep his head from going under.

How do you feel now? Are you still Angry at this man?”


The book as a few other examples of a person having a bad day. Approach us in a way that we can either take as an attack or as the person just having a bad day. And, it is how we respond to it that could even make the day good or bad.

There are times people are being trolls and trying to cause issues. There are other times when people are just being themselves and since we don't understand them we take offense to it. Also, they might not understand us that our background makes it hard for us to take a particular topic as a joke.


Recap: Don't allow others to have control of your Emotions. Don't react to something without thinking about the issue from different sides. Is the person really trying to hurt me or are they just making a bad joke? Is attacking back better than just spinning the joke and having fun with it? Remember, if you set back and watch a lot of wire drama, it reminds us of grade school. Also, there are times that we think something is happening that really is not happening. We respond to something that is not there.

Have fun on wire, not allow wire to cause any negativity that will affect you in your real life. Once you notice this then take a break from wire or at least a break from the rooms you hang out in that is causing the issues.

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